
Decision-making never ends. It is an intricate part of each and every day, and it is how we choose our path. Step by step, each choice propels us in a different direction than one we could have otherwise taken.
We make decisions in all kinds of ways. Sometimes we leave things to luck. Other times we take a more pro-active role. Here are some of the ways we commonly make decisions, and some of my thoughts on each one:
Make a list of pros and cons
What is decision-making but weighing out the benefits and costs, and then deciding which choice is the best? Whenever I see people trying to make a tough decision they often take out a piece of paper, make a T-chart, and then list the pros and cons of each option. This can help provide a bigger picture of what you are working with.
Ask a friend
Some studies have shown that others may know us better than ourselves. While I don’t think this is always true, I can definitely see how friends can point out certain things that we may be unconscious of. By getting an opinion from a third party who knows us well, they can shed light on our values and preferences that we weren’t taking into account previously.
Look at it from multiple perspectives
A big obstacle toward effective problem-solving is being stuck in the same state of mind. We need to be more flexible. One of my favorite Einstein quotes is, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” We can look at things from different perspectives by pretending we are something we are not, and seeing how the process unfolds from a new viewpoint. We may want to zoom out and take a bird’s eye view or zoom in and look closer at the details. Both can be beneficial and add insight.
Do your research
Some decisions require that we know more about the subject we are deciding on. Making a choice without first doing some research can turn things into a nightmare, so don’t be hasty. Take your time to search Google or Wikipedia. Maybe find a forum to ask a couple questions. Be thorough and check your sources. You wouldn’t accept advice from British Petroleum (BP) about how great their environmental plan is, but you might accept advice from an impartial third-party organization (who doesn’t have a vested interest in lying to you).
Picture the worst case scenario
What is the worst thing that can happen if you do X? What is the worst thing that can happen if you don’t do X? These can be important questions to ask. Worst-case scenarios sometimes happen, and it helps to be prepared for them. Sometimes we may find that there is a risk involved that we aren’t willing to take.
Consider all your options
Have you ever made a decision only to later find out that there was an option you didn’t consider? That can hurt. Before making a big decision, please make sure that you have thought out the full-range of possibilities. You might discover a “third way” that makes your choice a lot easier to make.
Follow your heart
There is a myth that all good decision-making is based on logic and reason. This is not so. Our emotions are a resource, and by following our heart we can sometimes make much wiser long-term decisions. Our emotions exist to help us understand and analyze our world in deeper ways. Of course, they can also misguide us, which is why we need to be careful. If we aren’t used to following gut feelings, it may take a lot of practice before we get it right.
Reflect on your values
Action without first considering what it is you want is one of the best ways of not getting what you want. Keep track of your values, and be clear about your intentions. Having those expensive jeans may seem appealing in the moment, but without looking long-range we can dig ourselves into a hole. Know what you want out of life and prioritize appropriately.
Go to an expert
Rarely are we the most knowledgeable person on a particular subject. Our friends can sometimes be no better. In this case it may be appropriate to seek consultation from an expert in the field. Investing? Talk to a market analyst. Feeling depressed? Go see a psychologist. Not sure how to write a book? Discuss tips with other authors.
Go for a run and then decide
If you aren’t pressed to make a decision in the moment, try walking away for a little bit. Literally. Go for a walk downtown or do some running on the treadmill. This will help get your mind off of things, and let your subconscious do some of the work. When you are done you will often find yourself thinking more clearly.
Take a nap
Napping is another good way of taking a break from tough decision-making. It is even being encouraged in the workforce now for it’s proven efficiency in improving problem-solving (and productivity). Like going for a walk or run, naps can re-boot our minds and have them come back thinking more clearly. Sleep deprivation is continuing to be a major problem in the U.S. The National Sleep Foundation (NSF) has found that over 60% of Americans experience sleeping problems a few nights a week or more. This can have negative effects on our cognitive ability, so taking a nap may be a crucial way to catch up on lost Zzz’s and improve our physical and mental health.
Flip a coin or roll a die
Sometimes we like to leave our choices to chance (maybe to dissociate from the burden of making a decision). So instead of thinking, we can flip a coin, or roll a die, or play “eeny, meeny, miny, moe.” This technique can have its advantages, especially if we don’t have a preference one way or another. It also helps when the decision isn’t too important (maybe we are deciding what movie to see on a Friday night – so it’s not like it is life or death).
Questions.
- How do you prefer to make decisions?
- What is the craziest way you’ve seen someone decide on something?
Other resources.
- 13 Ways To Quickly Improve Your Decision-Making at PsyBlog
- Decision-Making Techniques at Mind Tools
- Logical fallacies
- Decision-Making and Behavioral Biases at Wikipedia
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October 7th, 2010
I like to use a combination of the above ideas. They are all great and useful ways to reach simple decisions for sometimes very complex problems. I find making a list has been my most preferred method.
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October 7th, 2010
Nice advice! One of my favorite pieces of advice of all time…?:
"If you really don't know what to do, don't do anything at all…"
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October 8th, 2010
For me making decisions is usually done by writing about them in my diary. This usually comes down to sorting out my values.
I didn't count the number of points – with list posts I know I'll never implement all the things on the list, so I just skim to what interests me.
October 8th, 2010
Great post.
I will consider my options, ask a friend, do a bit of research and finally follow my heart.
Really, it is not good to be hasty in making a decision because the consequence may be disastrous.
By the way, I actually went back to count the points, they are twelve, ha!
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October 8th, 2010
Great tips! I think if you flip a coin, often you are willing it to land a certain way – so whether it does or not, the decision is made. I'm a big believer in following your gut feeling, although it may seem the illogical choice, it is usually the right course of action.
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October 8th, 2010
I love "Follow your heart" and "Reflect on your values" because in many occasions, these two have helped me decide. Following your heart relieves you of stress and makes you do things that cause you to be happy. Yet your heart must reflect the values that you have. It's not emotion or being passionate alone but also you are deciding on the basis of the values that you are made of. Thank you for sharing this tips!
October 8th, 2010
This is a very helpful post! It's important to really consider our decision making process, as many people don't actually make decisions based on logic. It's easy to get in a habit of making decisions based on emotional appeal or spiritual considerations such as coincidence. I don't know what I feel is most appropriate, though I imagine it depends on the context of the decision. The list provided really offers some helpful tips that provide a logical route to take, which often can turn out better results. Thanks for the post!
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October 9th, 2010
Normally I consider the options first and make what I term as a 'preliminary decision' (some sort of a temporary decision). Then I would weigh the pros and cons. If it's what I think is the best option that would be my final decision.
I seldom use flipping coins or rolling dice to decide things as I don't want to leave my destiny to luck. It's scary!
A useful list you have here and I could use some of them.
Thanks for sharing.
Have a blessed weekend!
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October 9th, 2010
Great post. I don't leave much to chance so definitely analyze the options. I like your blog. You're doing a lot of good work here.
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October 9th, 2010
I need your advice. What should we do when our mind says that something is basically wrong but our heart keeps on telling us to do it, In the post above, you advised to follow one's heart but in a situation like this, should we do it? Looking forward to your reply. Thanks Steven.
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October 9th, 2010
Your heart-mind and thought-mind are sometimes going to be in conflict. It really depends on the situation and what your values are. If you want my subjective opinion you can email me the details at contact@theemotionmachine.com
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October 9th, 2010
Hi Steve,
Nice post! Making a list of pros and cos is really helpful when making a decision. Then we should focus on solutions. Thanks for sharing
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October 9th, 2010
This is a good list! One way that you can do many of the suggestions you listed is journal about them. I find journaling about a problem or decision lets me spill out all my thoughts on the subject, brainstorm creative solutions, and leaves my mind feeling clearer.
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October 10th, 2010
>Worst-case scenarios sometimes happen, and it helps to be prepared for them. Sometimes we may find that there is a risk involved that we aren’t willing to take.
OTOH, sometimes, looking at the WCS tells you that it's really not all that bad, and that I could cope if that happened.
For example, "Not being able to pay my mortgage" <> "moving into a refrigerator carton." I could rent this house out and cover the mortgage fairly easily (in this town, in this economy). Move in with a friend for the duration.
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October 11th, 2010
There's some great advice here Steven.
I think many people undervalue the power of a truly committed decision can have. When it's followed up by action there's not much that can stop it.
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October 11th, 2010
Steven – these are good. So good I actually printed them out. Seriously. It's a nice reminder that I'll hang in my in-home gym so that I can have a frequent reminder of these daily.
Thanks Steve!
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October 12th, 2010
First time reader Steven and now a convert
Really solid list for being productive and actually getting things done.
The "Follow your heart" suggestion speaks a lot to me. A lot of the times, the best choice is to with your heart but we hesitate out of fear. We fear that we'll make the wrong choice, that we're not good enough, that we won't succeed, etc. We then decide it's not worth that risk and end up not doing it. I've found it so much more empowering and healthy to listen to what your heart is saying and go after it. Never be afraid to fail
Great post man!
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October 18th, 2010
Follow your heart. Reflect on your values. Look at it from multiple perspectives.
Great post, Steven.
More power!
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September 23rd, 2011
These are very good tips and I almost follow all of these points to get a decision but mostly I ended with follow my heart. But sometimes it gets so much difficult to get a decision.
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