
One clinical psychologist in Atlanta recently wrote a call to action (PDF) saying money has become an unhealthy taboo in psychotherapy. The main point of the essay was to say that financial troubles, especially in a rough economy, can become great sources of stress, anxiety, and depression for many individuals; and this can often be an overlooked aspect of mental health. In addition to stresses and anxieties, many individuals develop dysfunctional attitudes toward money, some of which could be considered forms of mental disorders, now coined “money disorders.”
Klontz and Klontz suggested a range of possible money-related disorders in their book Money Over Mind. These included money-worshiping, rooted in the belief that more money provides the answers, which can lead to such behaviors as overspending, compulsive buying, unreasonable risk-taking with money, pathological gambling, hoarding, and workaholism; and money-avoidance, which includes “behaviors such as financial denial, where denial is used to defend against or minimize money problems, or financial rejection where feelings of guilt or unworthiness are associated with money.” Avoidance disorders can also include under spending and excessive risk-aversion.
Apparently almost 30% of young adults between 18-25 are experiencing some kind of mental disorder, this is the highest rate ever recorded. Of course, many of these same individuals are just graduating from college and entering into a depressed marketplace. Psychologists are right to wonder how these current economic conditions may be contributing to our poor mental health.
Financial wellness – a component of well-being.
As someone who fits into the statistic mentioned above, I can certainly say that my financial life has been less than satisfying over the past two years. It has also spilled over into others aspects of my life, like relationships and going out to social gatherings. These can definitely pay a toll on our mental well-being. It is important to acknowledge that a balanced life must include proper (and sane) management of our finances (including a sustainable income). I can only imagine the stress of those who are going through similar troubles, but also need to support a family. Such a situation can become really mentally draining and affect all aspects of one’s life.
The right attitude about money.
I’ve thought a lot about money over the years and I’ve come to the conclusion that it shouldn’t be seen as neither “good” nor “bad.” Money is just a tool we use to exchange value with one another. But like all tools, it can be used properly and it can be used really poorly. Some of us have a lot of money, but when we spend it impulsively and with only short term gratification in mind, we can often find ourselves less happy with what we have in the long-term (perhaps due to wastefulness and gluttony). This is similar to what Klontz and Klontz called “money-worshiping.” At that point, material well-being can be like a drug.
At the same time, completely avoiding material needs can be unrealistic and just as unsatisfying. I think some of us witness greed in the world, and then we overcompensate by fostering a completely negative attitude regarding money. We see all action focused on making money to be bad, maybe even evil. A balance needs to be met by coming to terms with our material needs without clinging to them.

Avoid spending biases.
Debt is one of the biggest problems when it comes to financial wellness. People either buy a lot on credit or take risks that they think will have big financial return, but don’t. Thus they find themselves in a hole, paying interest on enormous debt as time continues to tick. It can feel like a prison.
Of course the best way to avoid debt is to not go in debt in the first place. This ultimately boils down to having smart spending habits. The trouble is many of us hold cognitive biases that hurt our wallets. Hopefully by being more aware of some of this irrational decision-making we can avoid making these mistakes:
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Status quo: We stick to buying what we know instead of pursuing alternatives.
Relativity trap: We notice a product is on sale 20% so we feel more compelled to buy it even though we never really needed the product in the first place.
Sunk cost effect: Instead of cutting our losses short, we often hold onto poor investments hoping that they will bounce back. This is a form of loss aversion: our tendency to prefer avoiding losses over acquiring gains.
FREE!: Humans tend to be very allured to anything that is “FREE!” and can often make irrational spending decisions to get something for free (ones which end up costing them more in the end). There is a great chapter on this in Predictably Irrational, an excellent books that explains some of the hidden forces behind consumer behavior.
Restraint bias: Humans tend to overestimate their self-control regarding spending. One thing we can do is avoid getting ourselves in tempting situations or environments that encourage us to buy something new.
Post-purchase rationalization: This bias describes our tendency to backwards rationalize our decisions after we’ve committed to them. Sometimes marketers use “Money Back Guarantees” knowing that instead of regretting a purchase we will usually find a way to justify it to ourselves.
Imagine yourself in the future.
A recent study published in The Journal of Consumer Research has suggested that by imaging our future self we can curb present spending and save more for the future. “The willingness to forego money now and wait for future benefits is strongly affected by how connected we feel to our future self, who will ultimately benefit from the resources we save,” writes Daniel M. Bartels (Columbia Business School) and Oleg Urminsky (University of Chicago).
If we can place ourselves in a bird’s eye view of the future (especially when making financial decisions), we can often become better planners for our future retirement by seeing the “bigger picture” of our habits.
Don’t buy stuff you can’t afford.
One of my favorite Saturday Night Live skits with Steve Martin. Just commonsense hilarity about not buying stuff you can’t afford. This seems more relevant now than ever before.
Remember money isn’t everything.
Money, of course, isn’t the only value in life. We also need good health, relationships, a meaningful life, among other things. Money and well-being does show some correlation up until $75,000 a year, but after that point money shows no significant effect on increased well-being. It’s important to remember that someone who is rich can still be miserable, and someone who is poor can still find happiness. Money is just one of many conditions that contribute to our well-being. This doesn’t mean we should ignore it; instead, we should try to maintain a balanced perspective.





April 5th, 2011
it's greed that drives one crazy and mad, there is no problem with money.
April 5th, 2011
Envy too!
April 5th, 2011
Sigh. Mental health is always contextual. And applying the usual problem (compulsion, denial and so on) to money specifically doesn't really add anything useful so far as I can see.
The taboo about money in therapy usually comes from the therapist in my experience. Perhaps because they have a bad conscience (which they probably should have in my opinion – health for wealth is immoral in my view).
As to imposing a therapists judgement on my financial life – I don't find this attractive. Was Ghandi financially unhealthy? This is just saying that those who deviate from social norms must be psychologically unhealthy (this applies to much 'diagnosis). I find this approach simply awful.
Sorry to sound so negative but imposing social norms about money on people seems like a bad idea. It seems to continue the awful situation we now find ourselves in.
April 5th, 2011
>"Mental health is always contextual. And applying the usual problem (compulsion, denial and so on) to money specifically doesn't really add anything useful so far as I can see."
Mental health is definitely contextual and money plays a role in that context. I think people's attitudes toward money is definitely worth researching and discussing.
>The taboo about money in therapy usually comes from the therapist in my experience. Perhaps because they have a bad conscience (which they probably should have in my opinion – health for wealth is immoral in my view).
I notice a taboo about money far beyond just therapists. And health for wealth is immoral? Eh…let's just say I disagree.
>Was Ghandi financially unhealthy?
Sure, why not? It's not about your wallet so much as your attitude. Although, I also tend to disagree with Gandhi's economic views, so I could argue that he does have some ideas that are counterproductive in terms of wealth (and consequently well-being)
>imposing social norms about money on people seems like a bad idea.
Who is imposing social norms? What is the social norm regarding money? I tend to see it as greed and envy. What is wrong with thinking of money as a tool or a means, and not an end in itself?
April 5th, 2011
My best tip for financial wellbeing comes from Rich Dad, Poor Dad. It says, you should never work for money. Instead, make decisions with money you have, even the little part of it, and make it big. Working for money is dumb. Instead of spending money on luxuries you may not be afford after spending that money, spend it on education and learning that will make you more money.
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April 6th, 2011
Money has always troubled people; money worries appear even in ancient fables and literature. Humans went wars, killing each other over money; for some, money was worth more than people's lives. Money, evil?
But then we know that money is as old as words to human society. The cavemen bartered but soon used shells, mineral-ore pieces etc. as their 'money'. Money, like words, is a bloodstream integral to a human society.
So I quite agree with you Steven, there's no good or bad about money. It's a medium of exchange.
From my own experience working in the financial industry, one thing (out of other things) I learned is that:
Never to confuse 'value' with 'price'. Prices on goods and services are NOTHING TO DO WITH their intrinsic value. We are the one to 'spot' the real value behind the price tag.
(Bond traders constantly arbitrage between the market price and the 'intrinsic value', buying 'undervalued' bonds and selling the 'overvalued' simultaneously. Their job, in essence, is to spot the gap between them.)
At a charity shop, I found a small painting costing £5 ( = less than two regular mocha at Starbuck). It was an original painting of a scene with a man walking on a tree-lined path, dappled lights falling like petals on him and his dog.
And I see at prestigious London art galleries, many paintings cost £ 50,000 or more. Now it's us to decide where the real value lies.
Of course, the intrinsic value is highly subjective, reflecting our individuality, thank God.
So don't be ripped off by the price tag. YOU know the real value!
April 6th, 2011
>"money was worth more than people's lives. Money, evil?"
I'm going to play devil's advocate here. It really depends on how much money. Would you say it is appropriate to spend 10 dollars to save someone's life? What about 100 million dollars? What about 100 billion? It's tough to defend the premise that you can place infinite value on a human life – especially if you need to conjure all the resources on the planet in order to save that 1 life. Economics, as you know, is cost-benefit analysis. That can sound immoral when we talk about human life.
Don't get me wrong, this isn't justification for war or slaughtering of human lives, but I did feel the need to challenge your premise that "money can be worth more than a human life = evil." After all, that same money/wealth helps sustain many other people's lives.
>"But then we know that money is as old as words to human society. The cavemen bartered but soon used shells, mineral-ore pieces etc. as their 'money'. Money, like words, is a bloodstream integral to a human society. "
As Mises and Hayek argue, money is part of the "spontaneous order" of the marketplace. Time and time again, money emerges from barter economies – due mostly to its convenience for facilitating trade. I just read an article a few months ago about how prison-mates were using cinnamon buns as currency. How wicked is that!?
>"Never to confuse 'value' with 'price'. Prices on goods and services are NOTHING TO DO WITH their intrinsic value. We are the one to 'spot' the real value behind the price tag."
Although I've been using the terms value and price interchangeable in this post, I have made this distinction in the past. You might remember my post "Productivity Redefined" (which you commented on): http://www.theemotionmachine.com/productivity-re-…
>"Of course, the intrinsic value is highly subjective, reflecting our individuality, thank God. "
Subjective theory of value absolutely. And art is one of the best explanations of it.
Great comment as always Chieko.
April 6th, 2011
> '' It's tough to defend the premise that you can place infinite value on a human life – especially if you need to conjure all the resources on the planet in order to save that 1 life.
Steven, you're hitting the hard nail again! This is where the Reality violently crashes against Idealism. Ideally we say our lives are priceless, but in reality we have to 'price' them economically. And I fully respect your objective viewpoint.
'Life' is surely unpriceable, yet we have to, for earthly reasons, and I must admit I'm torn in the unbridgeable chasm between them.
My 'spirit' inside me resents even the mere thought of being 'priced', but my rational part of brain accepts the economic argument that;
Each person is a 'scarce commodity' when we focus on our 'individuality', but not at all scarce, when we think ourselves as component 'bodies' of a human populace as a whole. Our bodies are easily counted and categorizable by external traits. Economics deal with quantifiables. Individualities are not quantifiable, but bodies are.
So there it is. The body and soul duality of human existence …
But I'm not despondent. We can do just SO MUCH, despite the duality! See our duality as our asset!
Yes, Reframe it!
see, I'm learning. Thanks, Steven!
April 6th, 2011
But is it the money that is the concern or other resources and other people's lives that would be affected?
April 6th, 2011
I think it's both, as money only gets its value because it is exchangeable for those resources. If we could separate the money from the material goods, the money would be worthless, and no one would desire it in the first place.
April 6th, 2011
I think this once was the case and should be. At the moment over 80% of trades on the stock markets are speculative. The tie up between money and goods is being stretched in unfortunate ways and we are living with the awful consequences.
April 6th, 2011
Oh, don't get me wrong. The current financial system is FUCKED. I blame having a fiat currency managed by The Federal Reserve, artificial credit, and inflated monetary policy, and at least a couple doses of greed and wishful thinking, but not the concept of money in itself (especially commodity-based money – which is theoretically more linked to material values).
April 26th, 2011
Very good and informative article. We should really have the right attitude about money.Its a both way loss process. If we take it negative we are losing out pleasures otherwise we are just wasting it. So right attitude about money is must.
June 24th, 2011
Great article! The point of the rich can be unhappy and the poor can be happy rings true. I'm not in bad financial shape, and I think for my age group I'm in great shape. However, often times I don't feel happy because of the assets that I have. In the end money is something that we can't even control the value of. Yet we make it our life goal to accumulate as much of it as possible.
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December 4th, 2011
Nice article. That's not Will Ferrel though.
December 6th, 2011
You're right – it's Steve Martin! Complete "brain fart" by me. Thanks for the correction, I'm actually surprised no one else figured it out sooner.