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Mnemonics: The Forgotten Art of Memory

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There used to be a time when memory was the foundation of an intelligent person. Before books, cellphones, and computers, everything a person learned had to be stored inside their mind.

In Ancient Greece, scholars would use elaborate memory techniques to remember full speeches, poems, stories, and historical facts.

Today we don’t have as much of a need to learn these memory techniques (often referred to as “mnemonics”). We don’t need to “internalize” memories, because we can just “externalize” our memories in whatever device we are closest to.

For example, how often do you really remember someone’s phone number? You probably just enter it into your phone right away as someone tells you it. Or at worse you write it down on a piece of paper.

A recent study shows how our reliance on smart phones leads to more “lazy thinking.” In many ways, technology teaches us that we don’t have to use our minds anymore.

And of course technology has been a huge benefit to society, but in what ways can learning mnemonics and the “art of memory” still benefit us today?

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3 Games People Play to Avoid Taking Responsibility

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We often play many games between ourselves and others.

But by “games” I don’t mean sports, or video games, or board games. Instead “games” are a form of dishonest communication – usually with ulterior motives involved.

In Eric Berne’s influential work Games People Play, a “game” is defined as a set of ulterior transactions with some type of payoff in the end. This “payoff” doesn’t have to be material – it can also be psychological or social.

Many times we aren’t even aware of the games we’re playing on a daily basis, because they are so embedded into our society and our way of thinking.

In this article, I go over 3 different games that we play to avoid taking responsibility. These games are based off of Eric Berne’s work, but I’ve modified some of them to better fit the theme of this article.

By becoming more aware of these games, you can hopefully do better at avoiding them in the future. To win these games, we often have to stop playing them.

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A Conversation Between Your Positive Self and Negative Self

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We’re complex beings.

Often times there isn’t one singular self that makes us who we are, but many multiple selves that are tugging away simultaneously.

Whichever “self” wins the tug of war is the one that gets to choose how we respond to any given situation.

Sometimes our “positive self” wins. Sometimes our “negative self” wins.

Have you ever looked back on an experience and thought, “That wasn’t really me!” or “I don’t know what came over me?”

Those are likely the times when your “negative self” has won. And thus you try to disassociate yourself from the experience, and not identify yourself with it.

This can be a healthy way to reflect on ourselves.

When we recognize our “multiple selves” we can observe our thoughts and behaviors without needing to fully attach to them.

No single “self” defines who you are – they are all just pieces to a much bigger puzzle.

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How to Overcome Stereotype Threat: Looking Beyond Society’s Expectations

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We live in a world full of expectations.

Society often expects us to act a certain way and be a certain way depending on who we are and what the “norms” are in a particular culture. These are the stereotypes we all have to face to some degree.

Stereotype threat is when we fear conforming to these negative stereotypes, which often creates stress and anxiety that ends up causing us to act in a way that makes that stereotype into a reality.

For example, an African American may experience stereotype threat when taking an SAT or IQ test, because of the stereotype that African Americans are less intelligent than other people.

This stereotype causes unnecessary stress and anxiety, which then leads an individual to under-perform, making the stereotype become true.

Stereotype threat is a very powerful force in our society. People’s expectations of us can often become self-fulling, because we are unconsciously influenced to conform to these standards.

The more we give in to these stereotypes and let them occupy our mind, the more likely they are to influence us. Here are healthy steps to take to help reduce stereotype threat in your life.

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Why It’s Healthy to Reflect on Your Past Relationships

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Whenever we experience a fall-out or a break up with someone, we often have a natural tendency to reflect on that relationship.

Often it can be a painful process. We ruminate constantly about someone – staying up all night thinking about the mistakes we made, the negative signs we missed, and all the things we could’ve done differently to make it work.

As it turns out, this desire to reflect on our past relationships may not be such a bad thing after all.

According to one recent study, individuals who gave themselves time to reflect on their past relationships, and talk about them, had an easier time recovering than those who didn’t reflect.

While some people may like to jump from one relationship to another without a second thought, maybe it’s actually better to take a step back every now and then and evaluate what it is we really want going forward.

Your past relationships can be a tremendous resource of insight and information into the mistakes you made in the past, and how you can improve yourself in the future.

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