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How to Build Thick Skin and Stop Being So Sensitive

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What does it mean to have “thick skin?”

Usually, it means a person is able to take criticism, insults, and unpleasant information without getting too emotional and riled up about it.

A person who doesn’t have thick skin can be very sensitive and over-reactive. You’ll often find them yelling, crying, or being defensive whenever they feel they are being threatened by something.

But a person with thick skin knows how to stay calm under pressure. When they feel threatened, they know how to remain centered, and don’t crumble or break apart emotionally when something doesn’t go the way they want.

I believe having “thick skin” is an important part of emotional intelligence. It’s about learning to manage your speech and actions, even when you feel the most negative and painful of emotions.

This article will teach you how to build thick skin and stop being so sensitive.

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The Echo Effect: How Repeating People’s Words Improves Social Interaction

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People who are masters at communication often make good use of repeating back the words they hear from the people they are speaking with.

When people use the same words, it creates less social distance between them and makes them feel more similar to each other. But when people use very different words, it creates more social distance and makes them feel more disconnected from each other.

Psychologists are now calling this the “echo effect.” The basic idea is that by repeating back the words people use, we can benefit our social interactions in a variety of ways.

A recent study published in the Journal of Language and Social Psychology elaborates on this effect. They found that mirroring people’s words can be very important in building likability, safety, rapport, and social cohesion.

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Happy With Less: Try Living With One Less Desire

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How much does it take to be happy? And how much is too much?

Money, houses, cars, TVs, phones, computers, video games, stereo systems, furniture, clothes, shoes, food, sex, sleep, drugs, and more – there’s no end to the amount of things we can want and desire.

Of course, we can’t live a life without an experience of desire. We see something, we want to experience it, so we take the necessary steps to fulfill that craving. We all have needs and wants, and one part of happiness is satisfying these needs and wants.

But anything in life we can become too addicted and too attached to. To the point where we don’t just want it, but we think we need it to be happy.

There’s a very simple rule to happiness: the more you need to be happy, the more work it takes to fulfill that happiness. Often becoming more happy is just as much about letting go of certain desires, as it is about fulfilling them.

This article describes the benefits of being happy with less – and some actionable steps you can take to begin this process.

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5 Reasons to Calm Down Your Analytical Mind

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Our “analytical mind” is the thinking part of our brains. It mostly takes place in the prefrontal cortex, which is associated with complex decision-making, problem solving, critical thinking, and self-monitoring.

Basically, it’s the part of our brains that makes us step back and think, “What should I think here?” or “What should I do here?”

It’s a very important function of a healthy mind, but it’s also not the only function. In certain situations, it can actually be useful to calm down your analytical mind.

Sometimes being too analytical and too rational can inhibit you from tapping into other mental resources. This article summarizes the main reasons why it can be unhealthy to be too analytical sometimes.

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4 Ways to Create Meaning in Life Without Religion

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Although I grew up as a Roman Catholic, I’ve always been skeptical of religion for as long as I can remember. By the time I reached high school, I had largely considered myself an atheist.

I’m not against other people being religious. For many, it provides a sense of meaning and belonging, and recent studies (like this, this, and this) show that religion can improve mental health, including minimizing stress and depression.

There’s no doubt that religion can have its benefits – but it’s not for everyone, and it wasn’t for me.

However, by the time I became an atheist I was very lost in my life. I felt that I still had a gap that needed to be fulfilled for me to be happy. I discovered this gap was a lack of meaning.

When many people start off as atheists, they fall into this trap. They begin to see a world of just atoms bouncing around, and they forget to create meaning in their lives and see the world from a bigger picture perspective.

Here are the main ways I’ve found you can add meaning and purpose to your life without religion.

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