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When You Have to Completely Breakdown Before You Can Rebuild Yourself

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Often times it takes a major catastrophe in our lives before we can find the motivation to make a change for the better.

This is an unfortunate tendency in human nature. When things are just going “OK” in life, we are usually comfortable keeping the status quo. Things aren’t that bad, so why change anything? We tell ourselves the old adage, “If it isn’t broken, then why fix it.”

The problem with this attitude is that just because something isn’t broken doesn’t mean we shouldn’t improve it. Perhaps improving things now will make sure that things don’t breakdown in the future.

For me personally, and I imagine many people like me, we weren’t really motivated to seek out “self improvement” until things took a turn for the worse. We had to first feel cornered and helpless before we started fighting back.

Again, this is natural – and it happens to a lot of people. Sometimes, you have to have a complete breakdown before you can start rebuilding yourself.

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5 Scientifically Proven Benefits of Playing Video Games

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Video games can often be a subject of controversy in psychology.

One of the biggest criticisms against video games is the idea that they can desensitize people (especially children) to violence, and thus lead to more aggressive and antisocial behavior in the real world. For example, in one recent study it was shown that playing violent video games, rather than non-violent ones, reduced the brain’s response to violence and aggression.

While I do believe this is a cause for concern, I also believe it’s something that really comes down to the right kind of parenting and attitude about video games. This means not allowing really young children access to games that are clearly for “mature audiences,” and also explaining to children the important difference between fiction and reality.

However, this article will focus on something completely different that is often overlooked in psychology: the scientifically proven benefits of video games.

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3 Smart Rules to Follow When Changing Habits

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One of the biggest obstacles in “self improvement” is trying to change habits. We are what we repeatedly do, this is why it’s so important to be aware of our habits – and change them when they are leading us down a bad path.

Because ultimately, your daily routine is what decides where you are going in life and where you will find yourself in the future.

Do you have any habits you’re currently trying to change? Do you need some help in making this habit change easier and smoother? Here are 3 smart rules to follow when changing habits of any type.

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A Simple Trick to Help Downplay Your Negativity

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We all have “positive” and “negative” traits about ourselves – things we like about ourselves vs. things we don’t really like.

Accepting both sides is important for being honest with ourselves. It’s important to be aware of both your strengths and weaknesses. No one’s perfect – everyone’s a mixed bag – and recognizing that can help see ourselves with more understanding.

The main problem isn’t that people accept their weaknesses, but that they tend to focus on them and exaggerate them.

A recent study discovered how we can downplay this negativity toward ourselves by how we speak about these negative traits – and how we can describe them in “less intense” ways.

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Start Living More As Your Future Self

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How often do you think about your future self? It could make all the difference in how happy and successful you are later in life.

You see, one of the biggest factors in making smart decisions is knowing when to pay short-term costs for long-term benefits. It’s about keeping the future in mind.

But for many, especially in our fast-paced world, there is a tendency for “instant gratification.” We want things now, not later – even if that means rejecting a much bigger reward in the future.

If you don’t think about your future self, and only consider your needs and wants in the present moment, then that can often lead to a lot of impulsive decisions that later come back to bite your ass.

True intelligence requires that we act with a long-term mindset. We need to pay attention to how what we do today is going to ultimately influence where we are tomorrow.

Sometimes it is more important to hold off on something now, so that we have even more to gain in the future.

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