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The Importance of Selling Yourself

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Selling yourself is something that everyone needs to learn.

Whether we are trying to get a job, or get a date, or get a gig for our new band – our lives are filled with situations where we are seeking to persuade someone or “win them over.”

Often times “selling” comes with negative connotations. We imagine sales people as greedy, dishonest, and willing to say anything just to get a sale – but the truth is we are all sales people to some degree. And we need to be.

All selling means is to communicate the value of something. So “selling yourself” means communicating your value – and that’s an ability we can all benefit from.

The truth is it doesn’t matter how skillful or talented you are at something if you don’t know how to sell yourself to others.

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3 Sources of Happiness That Aren’t Tied to People or Stuff

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It’s incredibly important to find sources of happiness in your life that aren’t tied to people or stuff.

Because you can’t always depend on “people” or “stuff” to be there for you all of the time. So if your happiness is only tied to them, it’s going to be much easier to lose that happiness when they are gone.

People come and go. You probably don’t hang out with the same people you did 10 years ago, and you probably won’t hang out with the same people 10 years into the future either. Relationships change: people move, people change jobs, people die, or people just lose touch over time.

Stuff comes and goes. Your new car eventually breaks down. Your new phone eventually becomes outdated. Your new computer eventually stops working. You lose things. You forget things. You get a short high when you first buy something, and then it quickly fades away.

When your happiness is only tied to things that are always changing, you’re going to get easily caught up in the “highs” and “lows.” In certain times, it’s necessary to have sources of happiness that aren’t tied to anyone but yourself.

Here are 3 sources of happiness that aren’t tied to people or stuff.

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7 Things to Remind Yourself When Interacting With Difficult People

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We all have to interact with difficult people throughout the day.

It’s an unavoidable fact of our social world – there are going to be people out there who we don’t like, can’t stand being around, and who may even infuriate and enrage us.

These are never pleasant experiences, but we have to learn to deal with them nonetheless.

Often these types of people can create a lot of unnecessary stress and anxiety in our lives. Their negative thoughts and emotions become contagious and we can’t help but let them spill over into our own mental state.

However, with the right attitude we can try to minimize the negative influence that difficult people can have on us.

Here are important ideas I try to remind myself whenever I’m interacting with a difficult person. Keeping these things in mind can help make you more calm and understanding regardless of who you’re talking to.

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Creating Boundaries Between You and Your Bad Habits

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Willpower is an important aspect of changing ourselves for the better, but it can only get us so far.

The truth is you only have a certain amount of willpower you can use throughout the course of your day. But once it runs dry, then you need to let yourself relax and reboot before your willpower “reservoir” builds up again.

For example, in one study published in Psychological Science, it was found that people tend to be more ethical in the morning and less ethical by the afternoon.

This is because our ability to resist temptations becomes increasingly difficult throughout the day. And this not only applies to ethical behavior, but any kind of bad habit we want to resist.

So when you can’t always rely on sheer willpower, what can you do? One tool you can use is creating boundaries between you and your bad habits.

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How Perfectionism Destroys Happiness


If you want to never be happy or satisfied with your life, one great way to do that is to raise your expectations to an unrealistically high standard that can never possibly be met.

This is the essence of perfectionism. It’s the inability to be happy with something until it is perfect, without any flaws whatsoever. Of course, the problem with this mindset is that perfectionism is often an illusion.

Life rarely works out exactly the way we want, in any domain – whether it’s relationships, work, or goals.

And many times being more happy with your life requires that you let go of these expectations and learn to be more content with how things are, rather than how you picture they should be in an “ideal world.”

Many studies are beginning to show the many ways perfectionism can destroy your happiness.

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