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Grit and the Need for Achievement

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We humans have many needs. Our most commonly recognized needs include food, water, sleep, shelter, and comfort to survive, but we also crave a lot more than that out of life.

Aside from our basic needs for survival, we also have many psychological needs. These include needs such as confidence, meaning, and love. These things aren’t necessary to live, but they are often necessary to be happy and enjoy life.

One often overlooked need we share is a “need for achievement” – this is our desire for significant accomplishment, mastering of skills, or achievement of high expectations.

We don’t have to be good at everything to be happy, but we usually like to be good at something. We all crave a type of passion, skill, or talent that we can excel at and rise above the norm. It helps us define ourselves as individuals.

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The Power of Moving Slower

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I often find that the people who make the most mistakes in life are the ones who try to move too fast. They also happen to be the most stressed, anxious, and distracted.

Focus is about moving slower. It’s about taking your time and doing every single action deliberately and consciously.

It starts with paying attention to the simplest of actions, such as putting your keys down somewhere, or choosing a word carefully, or answering a question on an exam.

Because what happens when you make a mistake? Your mind is usually wandering and drifting – and you aren’t fully there in the moment.

Your body is putting down your keys, but your mind is thinking about what to eat for dinner. So the next morning you wake up and find yourself saying, “Where the hell did I put my keys?”

This is a result of trying to move too fast and jumping ahead of yourself. And a lot of it can be avoided if you just tried to move a little slower throughout your daily life.

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How to Make Mental Notes That Stick

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Making a mental note is when you try to remember something without writing it down.

Psychology research is clear that our memories are never perfect and most of what we learn on a daily basis gets quickly forgotten. Due to this, it can be very difficult to create mental notes that actually stick in our minds.

We tell ourselves, “Okay, mental note: I need to pick up milk at the grocery store.” Then the next thing you know you come home from shopping, look in the fridge, and go “Dammit, I forgot to buy milk!”

Our ability to memorize can be really bad sometimes, but fortunately there are some things you can do to make your mental notes stick better, so that you actually remember them when you need them.

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Be Careful of What You Let Enter Your Mind

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In today’s world, we are constantly being exposed to new information in the media, news, articles, blogs, books, TV, movies, or conversations we have with others.

In many ways, this abundance of information allows us to reach a new level of education that wasn’t before possible. However, it can also lead to a lot of misinformation which can distort our views and beliefs.

One recent study shows that exposure to misinformation can be very “sticky” in our minds. Even if we are told afterwards that something we learned isn’t true, that misinformation still influences our future choices.

This is especially true if the misinformation we consume conforms to our pre-existing beliefs or if it’s something we have very little outside knowledge about.

For these reasons and many more, it’s important that you are careful of what you let enter your mind.

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30 Positive Reframes: How to Start Changing Your Perspective on Life

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The single most important attribute in cultivating happiness and success in your life is your ability to create positive reframes.

A positive reframe is taking a situation and trying to find something good in it. It’s incredibly simple in theory, but it can be very difficult to practice.

Two people can have the same exact experience but walk away from it with a completely different perspective and interpretation of the facts. This is the power of reframing.

This article shares 30 positive reframes when it comes to both yourself and others. It takes a characteristic that is usually seen as “negative” and then twists it to make it more “positive.”

Try to think of this list as a resource to help you think more positively. It won’t make you a master of positive reframes, but it is a great starting point to get you thinking in a different direction.

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