The single most important attribute in cultivating happiness and success in your life is your ability to create positive reframes.
A positive reframe is taking a situation and trying to find something good in it. It’s incredibly simple in theory, but it can be very difficult to practice.
Two people can have the same exact experience but walk away from it with a completely different perspective and interpretation of the facts. This is the power of reframing.
This article shares 30 positive reframes when it comes to both yourself and others. It takes a characteristic that is usually seen as “negative” and then twists it to make it more “positive.”
Try to think of this list as a resource to help you think more positively. It won’t make you a master of positive reframes, but it is a great starting point to get you thinking in a different direction.
Negative Frame → Positive Frame
1. Bossy → Good director / Natural leader
2. Clingy → Affectionate
3. Compulsive → Efficient / Attention to detail
4. Conceited → Confident / Values self
5. Crabby → Communicates needs
6. Dawdles → Easy-going
7. Defiant → Strong beliefs / Courageous
8. Demanding → Assertive
9. Dependent → Connected
10. Doodles → Creative
11. Dramatic → Emotionally aware / Expressive
12. Fearful → Thoughtful / Careful
13. Foolish → Fun loving
14. Fussy → Specific tastes / Strong sense of self
15. Goofy → Joyful / Entertaining
16. Impulsive → Spontaneous
17. Loud → Exuberant / Confident
18. Manipulative → Gets own needs met
19. Mean → Power-seeking
20. Messy → Open-minded / Easy-going
21. Mouthy → Expressive / Has strong opinions
22. Naughty → Independent / Exploring boundaries
23. Nosey → Curious / Inquisitive
24. Quiet → Thoughtful / Reflective
25. Rigid → Organized / Knows what they want
26. Shy → Introspective / Respectful of boundaries
27. Silly → Good sense of humor
28. Stubborn → Determined / Persistent
29. Talkative → Good communicator / Expressive
30. Wants Attention → Speaks out needs
These are just suggestions on how you can turn a perceived “negative” into a “positive reframe.”
Hopefully, reading through this list gives you some ideas on the types of things you can reframe in your daily life. The possibilities are endless, but you have to first be open to a more positive perspective.
Keep in mind, looking at life through a positive reframe doesn’t mean you ignore the stress, pain, and suffering in life, but it does help you deal with these problems more efficiently by seeing them in a different light.
The better you are at viewing life through a positive reframe, the more happiness and success you’ll find.
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