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How to Not Become Intoxicated by Success


Success can often feed into our egos and get inside our heads. We achieve something awesome in life, and we begin to feel a toxic sense of superiority that can last for days, weeks, months, and even years.

There’s the old saying that “success changes people,” and for many people that may be true. We commonly see successful athletes, musicians, actors and celebrities act in reckless and immoral ways simply because they feel their success entitles them to whatever they want.

Don’t let success bring out the worst in you. Learn to manage it and keep yourself grounded even when you’re out there doing amazing thing. Here are the key ways you can avoid becoming intoxicated by your success.

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How to Let Go of Negative Thinking

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The most positive minds are still going to have negative thoughts every now and then.

We are not in complete control of our thoughts, some will pop up from time to time that we don’t invite into our heads. The big difference is how we respond to this negative thinking when it happens.

Here are practical tips to help you let go of negative thinking and not let it turn into a vicious cycle.

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Healthy Escapism: The Emotional Intelligence Behind Fantasy and Distraction


One important aspect of emotional intelligence is knowing when to engage with an emotion vs. when to disengage from an emotion. By changing how we respond to our feelings, we can exercise more effective self-regulation and emotional management.

While often it is healthy to accept your emotions, reflect on them, and release them, sometimes it’s actually healthy for you to avoid an emotion, or distract yourself from an emotion, or actively shift your awareness toward a different kind of emotional experience.

This is because emotions can take on a cyclical and self-fulfilling form.

There’s a point where the more you indulge in sadness, or anger, or grief, the more you’re conditioning those wirings in the brain that actually trigger those emotions, which makes you more susceptible to continue to experience those emotions in the future.

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Be Specific About Your Goals


The way you describe your goals to yourself is going to make a big difference in how successful you are when pursuing those goals.

One recent study published in PLOS One found that depressed individuals describe their goals in more general and abstract terms, which may contribute to their lack of motivation and goal attainment.

Individuals are more likely to be happier and achieve their goals when they have specific goals in mind rather than goals that are very general and vague.

This is because if you can describe your goals in more specific terms, then often you’ll have a better idea of the kinds of actions you need to take to actually get to those goals.

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When You Should Break Your Principles

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Principles are core beliefs that we try to adhere to on an everyday basis.

Many people view their principles as strict rules that should never be broken, one who goes against their principals is viewed as a “hypocrite,” a person who doesn’t follow what they actually say they believe.

However, I find principles work best when we view them as guidelines. In this way, our principles become a general rule of thumb, but something that we may have to break every now and then.

Breaking your principles isn’t always a sign of hypocrisy, it could just mean that your principles don’t apply within a particular situation and context. You cannot expect to discover a set of principles and think they will apply to every future situation in your life.

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