A false choice is when we are presented a situation as having only two choices, when in fact other alternatives may be available to us. Often a false choice is a result of black and white thinking, in which we look at two extremes but don’t realize that the answer may be in a grey [...]

As we age we often become stuck in old routines and habits. In many ways, our growth stagnates. We begin to stick with what is familiar – whatever is in our “comfort zone” – and often we become stubborn, resistant, and even afraid to expose ourselves to new things. In short, we become complacent toward [...]

Optimists are said to be those who see the glass as half full, while pessimists see the glass as half empty. An optimist often tries to find the good in everything, and often this perspective can cause less stress, less anxiety, and a more empowering and motivating attitude. Positive psychologist Martin Seligman coined the term [...]

There is no doubt in my mind that many men and women live their lives with very low self-esteem. They think that they are inadequate in achieving their own dreams, goals, and values; thus, they find themselves in a constant state of self-pity, disappointment, or even self-hate. The problem with this view is that it [...]

Leo Babauta of Zen Habits recently wrote an interesting piece called, “The Illusion of Control.” In it he describes how our efforts to control our lives and our surroundings are fundamentally flawed and worthless. We cannot control things, Leo argues, because our world is too complex, and the future is ultimately unknown. I partially agree, [...]