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		<title>How To Do A True Act Of Kindness</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Dec 2009 22:45:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Steven Handel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It is only during these strange times of holiday cheer that we begin to feel comfortable enough to actively spread love and happiness. Let us maintain this positive momentum for the following 364 days of the year as well. For any time of the year, here are some ideas that I find most important to consider whenever we are giving gifts or doing someone else a favor.]]></description>
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<p><center><font size="3">“What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world remains and is immortal.” &#8211; Albert Pike<br />
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<p>With the holidays looming near, now is a better time than any to exercise our good will. Whether it is buying mom a Nintendo Wii or helping an old lady cross the street, there are countless ways we can accumulate good karma.</p>
<p>Often, we think of doing something nice as a rarity. Most people don&#8217;t seem to do it often and we reciprocate by not doing anything either. It is only during these strange times of holiday cheer that we begin to feel comfortable enough to actively spread love and happiness. Let us maintain this positive momentum for the following 364 days of the year as well. For any time of the year, here are some ideas that I find most important to consider whenever we are giving gifts or doing someone else a favor:</p>
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1. Have Their Interests In Mind<br />
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<p>This may seem obvious but sometimes we can get caught in the trap of buying something that we would enjoy, while ignoring the interests of the person who we are giving the gift too. Of course, it is not always easy to know what someone else may want. We can try to overcome this by putting our self in someone&#8217;s shoes, or asking like-minded people what a good present might be. If you are trying to find something for a 6 year old boy, then you can ask other 6 year old boys. Similarly, if you know someone who is an avid golfer, then you can ask other avid golfers what a good brand of new clubs might be.</p>
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2. Let It Be From The Good Of Your Heart<br />
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<p>All too often, and especially during the holiday season, we do &#8220;nice&#8221; things for people out of necessity or obligation. It is this kind of mentality that can ruin what would otherwise be a joyful celebration. It is much nicer and much more fun if we actually do others favors out of the goodness of our heart, and not out of some unhealthy and ill-defined obligation. Find the desire in yourself to make others happy, and by acting on these desires, you will find that you too will become much more happier and satisfied. </p>
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3. Make It Meaningful<br />
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<p>If you excel at the first two intentions then this one often comes naturally, but it is worth pointing out anyway: make your favors and gifts as meaningful as possible. There is usually no extra financial burden to doing something with a little bit of meaning, something that shows you put in the time and thought into making a good gesture. A meaningful gift is one that will evoke a strong sense of appreciation in the recipient. Something that brightens the person&#8217;s day and makes life worth living. You also want to avoid gifts purely based on novelty or &#8220;quick highs,&#8221; and instead focus on things that will continue to have value over time. </p>
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4. Don&#8217;t Expect Anything In Return<br />
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<p>If you expect something in return for your favors then you are limiting the magic of your actions. A true act of kindness is not dependent on any reciprocation. The act of giving in itself is all that is needed to experience pleasure and happiness. If we expect something in return, but we don&#8217;t get it, we may conclude that our actions were for nothing, but that isn&#8217;t the goal of giving to others, is it? It is probably for the best that we diminish any expectations we may have in getting something in return for our efforts. This doesn&#8217;t mean we should be shocked if someone reciprocates a good deed, but it shouldn&#8217;t be dependent on our ability to exercise kindness.</p>
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5. Feel Proud Of What You&#8217;ve Done<br />
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<p>Often we get immediate gratification after doing something kind for another. It simply feels good to make others feel good. But some like to suppress these feelings. Perhaps it is because they define altruism through &#8220;self-sacrifice,&#8221; and therefore, much like the story of Jesus dying for our sins, they feel that an act of kindness must be at the expense of our own life, happiness or well-being. I wish to dispel this notion. It is of utmost importance that we feel good when providing for others. If we can exercise this will, if we allow ourselves to feel good for our good deeds, then we are more motivated to continue these actions of kindness in the future. Be proud of your noble efforts! Be selfishly generous.</p>
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Final Words<br />
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<p>I hope this post provides some good food for thought for the next time you are intending to help another. All acts out of kindness are commendable, but if we can accept some of these ideas, and raise our consciousness regarding what it means to be giving, then we can bring our kindness to the next level.</p>
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		<title>Business-Minded Spirituality</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 10 Dec 2009 06:06:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Steven Handel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[At first the idea of business and spirituality together may seem contradictory. We are often told that businesses are only driven by the incentive to make more money, while spirituality entails abandoning this attachment to material wealth. With this attitude hanging over our heads how can a spiritual person ever expect to become a successful businessman?]]></description>
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<p>At first the idea of business and spirituality together may seem contradictory. We are often told that businesses are only driven by the incentive to make more money, while spirituality entails abandoning this attachment to material wealth. With this attitude hanging over our head, how can a spiritual person ever expect to become a successful businessman? Under what conditions can one sell and still be moral?</p>
<p>To start, is there any place in this world that is outside of economic reality? Even the poorest of spiritual beggars must have <em>some</em> desire for clothing, food and shelter if he or she wants to survive. </p>
<p>On the other hand, some of these spiritually-driven individuals make a virtue out of living from the bare minimum, a notion that the late Indian mystic <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Osho_(Bhagwan_Shree_Rajneesh)">Osho</a> disagreed with strongly. Often referring to himself as the &#8220;rich man&#8217;s guru,&#8221; Osho taught that material poverty was not a genuine spiritual value. According to one excerpt from Wikipedia:</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;Osho had himself photographed wearing sumptuous clothing and hand-made watches, and while in Oregon drove a different Rolls-Royce each day – his followers reportedly wanted to buy him 365 of them, one for each day of the year. Publicity shots of the Rolls-Royces (93 in the end) were sent to the press. As a conscious display, they may have reflected both his enjoyment of wealth and his desire to provoke American sensibilities, much as he had enjoyed offending Indian sensibilities earlier.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>Although a complex character who loved to provoke others, Osho made it clear that he never mistook material wealth for spiritual gain. Money to him was just a tool. He once said,</p>
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&#8220;Money is a means. If you are happy and you have money, you will become more happy. If you are unhappy and you have money, you will become more unhappy &#8211; because what will you do with your money? Your money will enhance your pattern, whatsoever it is.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>Although he was rarely one to hide his wealth, money did not define Osho. In fact many of the royalties he received from his work were often donated to local communes, including the 90+ Rolls Royces. </p>
<p>In some ways Osho&#8217;s teachings can even be seen to resemble the moral philosophy of <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ayn_rand">Ayn Rand</a>, who once said, &#8220;The purpose of morality is to teach you, not to suffer and die, but to enjoy yourself and live.&#8221; Osho was definitely one to enjoy himself and live. He saw no virtue in prolonging <em>any</em> kind of suffering, starting with his own. His way of life quickly became a quintessence of how one can take responsibility for themselves and enjoy life without any signs of guilt or fear.</p>
<p>It is not money that is the root of all evil, but human greed itself that causes humans to do heinous acts for material and superficial gains. Money however can still be used as a tool for good, and even the acquisition of money, as long as the means are just, can often benefit society at large. The remainder of this article will touch upon business incentives that I feel also align themselves congruently with spiritual and moral imperatives.</p>
<p><font size="4"><strong><u>The Incentive To Provide Goods For Others</u></strong></font></p>
<p>First and foremost the purpose of a business is to provide goods for others. The owner may have the intentions of striking it rich, but if he neglects the needs and wants of society then he will have a tough time selling his products. Sure, he or she may find ways to exploit the system and trick others into buying something they don&#8217;t really desire, but this can be incredibly difficult to do and even if the business does succeed, they won&#8217;t last long. </p>
<p>Businesses are almost always better off if they try to provide something of value. Just look at individuals like <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bill_gates">Bill Gates</a> from Microsoft and <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sam_Walton">Sam Walton</a> the founder of Wal-Mart. Both of these companies have drastically helped to increase the standard of living of others. Nowadays almost everyone has experienced the luxury of a computer, as well as the low prices provided by enterprises like Wal-Mart. In what ways have these institutions benefited you?</p>
<p>Businesses must know the demands of others if they want to continue to exist. Providing valuable goods to others at an affordable rate is a great way to benefit society at large. Often these endeavors can result in an alleviation of suffering, which is a primary objective to any spiritual practice. In the right hands, more money can mean a greater capacity to do good for others. This is an aspect of business that should be celebrated more often.</p>
<p><font size="4"><strong><u>The Incentive To Treat Customers Right</u></strong></font></p>
<p>My economics teacher in high school once said that if someone has a bad experience with a company they are likely to tell the story to &#8211; on average &#8211; about 7 other people. I wasn&#8217;t able to confirm this statistic (if anyone can help me that would be great!) but I think she was touching on a crucial point: businesses must treat customers at some sort of satisfactory level if they want their customers to keep coming back. If a business gets enough of a bad reputation, people will stop going, and the company will no longer be favorable in the public eye. Especially in industries where there is much competition, it is in the <em>company&#8217;s best interest</em> to win over their customers. </p>
<p>It doesn&#8217;t cost much to treat your customers with loyalty, care, and a bit of compassion &#8211; so if you are running a business it is in only in your own rational self-interest to make it <strong>assured</strong> that your customer&#8217;s needs are being met. This doesn&#8217;t just mean in the value of your product, but also in the value of your services as well as the overall human-to-human experience. This means the overall &#8220;personality&#8221; of your company: What kind of friend are you to your clients? Are you being genuine, superficial, or are you acting as if you just don&#8217;t give a fuck at all? People aren&#8217;t dumb &#8211; they can usually tell the difference!</p>
<p><font size="4"><strong><u>The Incentive To Treat Employees Right</u></strong></font></p>
<p>Sure, many people believe that many modern economies have resulted in what is know as <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wage_slavery">wage slavery</a>.  In this sense many say companies can get away with exploiting their workers, despite the fact that workers voluntarily choose where they work in a free society. Despite this, businesses have plenty good incentives to treat their workers with the best possible care.</p>
<p>For example, building a sense of community or family around the workplace is a fantastic way to increase productivity. If people love where they work then they are much more motivated to do a great job. Of course, not all jobs are equally enjoyable, so it is up to the business owner to be creative when trying to build a more friendly atmosphere for his employees. One real world example is the <a href="http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&#038;source=hp&#038;q=google+offices+pictures&#038;um=1&#038;ie=UTF-8&#038;ei=ZZ4gS7LKBcO2lAfR4_XjBQ&#038;sa=X&#038;oi=image_result_group&#038;ct=title&#038;resnum=1&#038;ved=0CBQQsAQwAA">offices at Google</a>, one of the biggest companies in the world. Sure looks like fun to work there!</p>
<p><font size="4"><strong><u>Choosing The Right Values</u></strong></font></p>
<p>Achieving the above objectives requires a company to have good and productive values. Although this isn&#8217;t all that it takes to build a great business, it is important to have a sense of love, compassion, and family within the internal structure of your company. That is what keeps it together and makes up its core. You want your employees to be able to feed energy off of each other. This builds a self-perpetuating drive and motivation to do good for the company, which should try and be seen as a greater whole.</p>
<p><strong>Understand</strong> that by doing good for the company you are also doing good for society at large. The key is to work for (or build) a company that you <strong>believe</strong> is doing good for the world. The rest of your attitude will come naturally to you. You will want to improve the company because it simultaneously improves humanity too. </p>
<p><font size="4"><strong><u>Last Thoughts On Business-Minded Spirituality</u></strong></font></p>
<p>This framework for business is part of what I am beginning to call &#8220;Business-Minded Spirituality.&#8221; As an ardent proponent of capitalism and free markets, but also a deeply spiritual person, I strive to persuade you that businesses are not just evil and greedy money-making machines, but amazing tools that can be utilized to transform our world in a positive direction. For those that are already awakened spiritually, continue your learning by getting into the realm of business. For those that are more business-oriented, add a spiritual element to your company to help make it grow in new and expansive directions. I hope to be discussing these concepts more in the near future.</p>
<p>Some of you may have already adapted a business-minded and spiritual attitude. What type of things do you do to build a spiritual sense around your company? Which techniques do you find most effective for improving upon your business?</p>
<p><strong><font size="4"><u>Farewell Video</u></font></strong></p>
<p>Let me now leave you with a video of Osho himself, discussing the concept of &#8220;Selling Bliss:&#8221;</p>
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		<title>Grudges And Forgiveness</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 02 Dec 2009 21:57:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Steven Handel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[By not forgiving others we are simultaneously denying ourselves forgiveness for our own mistakes. This hypocrisy can eat away at our spirit, cripple our ability to do good, and leave us feeling down and empty. Therefore it is important to address these feelings and find reconciliation.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div align="right" style="float:right;padding:0px 0px 5px 5px;"><a name="fb_share" type="box_count" share_url="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/grudges-and-forgiveness"></a></div><p>Who hasn&#8217;t at one point in their life held a grudge against another? Sometimes we can hold these grudges for long periods of time and even years leading up until our death. Of course we may believe we are only acting out of principle, but we are in actuality hurting ourselves. It may seem like we are coming from a place of dignity and power, but we are only wasting our energy on things that cannot be changed.</p>
<p>By not forgiving others we are simultaneously denying ourselves forgiveness for our own mistakes. This hypocrisy can eat away at our spirit, cripple our ability to do good, and leave us feeling down and empty. Therefore it is important to address these feelings and find reconciliation. </p>
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<p>So someone has hurt you. You cannot find the heart to forgive them. The very thought of what they did to you makes you sick to your stomach and you blame them for all the pain and suffering you have experienced because of them. In the moment, these feelings are rational and commonplace.  It is something all humans inevitably go through. But &#8211; <a href="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/this-too-shall-pass-a-lesson-in-impermanence">this too shall pass</a>.</p>
<p>Forgiveness is a skill. And like any other skill it takes concentration and practice to develop. People have the capacity to do some really wretched and thoughtless acts onto other human beings. But once this is all said and done it doesn&#8217;t mean we have to stop living our lives to the fullest. Forgiveness is the key to moving on and letting go. </p>
<p>You too may recall past acts that have hurt yourself or others. The best thing about these acts is they are no longer here. But then why do you still suffer from their consequences?</p>
<p>It is because you are still carrying all the heavy weight that these experiences first bestowed upon you. What use do these attachments serve but to drain your energy? Imagine if you had the courage to forgive the person who had done this to you. You would become as light as a feather in the summer breeze.</p>
<p>You are still here alive and breathing. Time has already healed your wounds. Your negative thoughts are your ego telling you that you must seek revenge or justice, but you can already find content in what already is. You can even feel gratitude towards those who have hurt you. Your memory of their ignorance and ill will can become a well of knowledge for you to draw upon. You are better and more conscious because of this experience. Congratulations. </p>
<p>But &#8211; as valuable as it may be &#8211; it is not enough to simply learn from this experience. You must also love the person in spite of what they have done. They may have caused you pain but that is a reflection of their own suffering. Don&#8217;t pity them, but pray for their salvation. Send them your good intentions and wish for them to find true happiness. </p>
<p>If it is possible then contact the person and make it clear that you forgive them and that you wish them all the happiness in the world. You will immediately feel lighter and more free because of this. If you don&#8217;t have any means of communicating with the person, then meditate or pray on your good intentions. They will manifest themselves through your thoughts and actions by making you more kind and forgiving of others in the future.</p>
<p>As long as you are alive you are bound to run into other experiences where others might disappoint and hurt you. Use these opportunities to practice forgiveness. Through your example, you will teach others how to do the same and make the world a better place. To me, that is a much more useful and productive way to invest your energy. </p>
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<p><center><em>&#8220;Give away the stone,<br />
Let the ocean take and transmutate,<br />
This cold and fated anchor.</p>
<p>Give away the stone,<br />
Let the waters kiss and transmutate,<br />
These leaden grudges into gold.&#8221;</em></p>
<p>- &#8220;The Grudge&#8221; by the alternative rock band <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tool_(band)">Tool</a></center></p>
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		<title>Feel Better Through Ten Acts Of Loving-Kindness</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Nov 2009 22:50:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Steven Handel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Exhibiting loving-kindness and compassion is one of the most underrated methods of improving our mental well-being. It gets us to step out of our own ego-driven tendencies, to empathize with others, and to share both their pain and joy. Their happiness becomes our happiness. ]]></description>
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<p>Exhibiting loving-kindness and compassion is one of the most underrated methods of improving our mental well-being. But how can doing something that benefits another possibly allow <em>me</em> to feel better? </p>
<p>Although it may seem counter-intuitive, studies have shown that helping others actually does increase our own happiness. It gets us to step out of our own ego-driven tendencies, to empathize with others, and to share both their pain and joy. Their happiness becomes our happiness. </p>
<p>So what are some things we can do to exercise this skill? </p>
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<font size="3">1. Call Someone And Tell Them You Love &#8216;Em</font></strong></p>
<p>Often we don&#8217;t tell others how much we love them even though we know how much they would love to hear it. Those that don&#8217;t feel loved can become depressed and suffer greatly. Because of this, it is important that we tell others we love them and we should remind them of it often. Go ahead and call your wife, husband, mom or dad and tell them that you appreciate all that they have done and that you truly love them for who they are. Even if it is someone who you haven&#8217;t used the word &#8220;love&#8221; to in a long while &#8211; work up the courage to still do it, it&#8217;ll benefit both of you.</p>
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<font size="3">2. Compliment A Stranger</font></strong></p>
<p>Being kind is not something exclusive to people we know and already love. We should also exercise this amongst strangers. Sometimes there is nothing more pleasing than making a positive change to a stranger&#8217;s day. You can do this in a variety of ways: compliment an article of clothing or jewelry of a store clerk or just stop someone you pass in the street and compliment their smile. Make sure your words are genuine. Let the person know that you just had to tell them &#8220;Blah blah blah&#8221; and then go on your merry way.</p>
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<font size="3">3. Donate To A Charity</font></strong></p>
<p>Donating to a charity is one of the most noble things one can do. It doesn&#8217;t matter if it is only a couple dollars or even a few thousand &#8211; it is the principle of the act. Sometimes the hardest thing to give up is a material good like money, but by detaching ourselves from this possessive mindset we are not only helping someone in greater need but allowing ourselves a greater freedom.</p>
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<font size="3">4. Schedule An Exciting Event </font></strong></p>
<p>This one takes a little more time and effort than the past three, but this also means it can give us a greater satisfaction. Try to put together an event that a group of your friends or family can enjoy. Maybe you could throw an upcoming surprise birthday party for someone or a weekend costume party for a good time. The key here is to schedule something that is fun and exciting. Many of us need more of this in our lives due to the burdens of work and family life. By providing an outlet for people to let loose and relax you are doing a tremendous service.</p>
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<font size="3">5. Dedicate A Song, Poem, or Painting To Someone Significant</font</strong></p>
<p>What better way to create than to do it for the sake of sharing with someone significant? Maybe it is time to dust off that old acoustic guitar or overcome those years of writer&#8217;s block. Think of someone you want to dedicate to. Pick a theme or message that you want to express and then work with it until you find something that you are proud of. Polish it up, and when you are ready show it off to the intended person. It will warm their heart.</p>
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<font size="3">6. Invest Time Playing With Children</font></strong></p>
<p>Children are a fantastic way to practice loving-kindness (and sometimes patience). If you have kids of your own then you can schedule an afternoon at the zoo or park. If you don&#8217;t have kids then see if you can volunteer at a children&#8217;s hospital or elementary school. Most volunteer places are more than happy to have an extra pair of hands on deck to help entertain the children and keep them behaved. I find it incredibly enlightening to spend time with children &#8211; they have great imaginations and they are always living in the moment to the fullest. Of course kids can sometimes become a huge handful, so there is also a sense of skill in keeping them both safe and happy. I used to volunteer at an elementary school throughout my High School years up until my second semester in college and I learned many valuable life lessons doing so.</p>
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<font size="3">7. Fulfill A Wish </font></strong></p>
<p>This suggestion is probably one of the toughest to accomplish depending on the person&#8217;s wish you are trying to fulfill. Maybe you have a friend who has always wanted to dive into a swimming pool of jello or who has always wanted to travel to Europe. These wishes might be too difficult to fulfill, but if you have the means to do it then don&#8217;t let anything stop you. Other wishes are easier. Maybe you know someone who had always wanted a toy train as a child or a certain comic book. Even though they might be older now, the thought of fulfilling this childhood wish is something that can bring great joy to the person. It also shows that you are thoughtful, you listen to others, and remember what they say.</p>
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<font size="3">8. Get A Loved One A Gift For No Reason</font></strong></p>
<p>We often only get others gifts during birthdays or holidays. But what is stopping us from giving even when there is not a special occasion. Sometimes it is gifts like this that are the most surprising and meaningful. The classic case is coming home with a rose or box of chocolates for your wife. It doesn&#8217;t really matter who or what it is &#8211; it is the thought and the freedom to give someone something <em>whenever you want</em> that creates real spontaneity and happiness.</p>
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<font size="3">9. Create A Mixtape For A New Friend</font></strong></p>
<p>This is one of my favorite things to do as I love music and I love sharing new artists with others. You may remember a time back in High School when you and your crush would exchange mixtapes and then go home and listen intently to all the songs they had chosen specifically for you. Why let this practice die as you get older? It is never too late to introduce others to new music. It creates an important bond and as long as they hold on to your mixtape the connection will always be there. </p>
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<font size="3">10. Find Someone Who Looks Down And Make Them Smile</font></strong></p>
<p>This too can be a great challenge. It sucks to see someone going throughout their day looking down and depressed. When I see someone like this I always wonder if there is anything I could do in that moment to make their day a tad bit better. You could resort to option 2 and give them a compliment. You may also have  a good joke on hand that could brighten up their day. Maybe it is a homeless man on the street in which case you can give a donation. Use your good judgment and be creative if you have to.</p>
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<font size="3">Final Words</font></strong></p>
<p>There are enough easy and simple things to do on this list to begin your practice of loving-kindness. As you get better you can progress to some of the more difficult suggestions. All of these are ways to improve conditions of your surrounding world and at the same time improve your inner happiness and content. A daily practice of loving-kindness is a great ingredient for any recipe in healthy living. Try it out for yourself!</p>
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		<title>Seven Ways To Stand Up And Live</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 23 Nov 2009 23:09:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Steven Handel</dc:creator>
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<p><center><font size= "4"><em>“How vain it is to sit down to write when you have not stood up to live.”</font></em></p>
<p>- Henry David Thoreau</center></p>
<p>Earlier this week I published an article on &#8220;<a href="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/five-reasons-why-having-a-blog-makes-you-more-productive">Five Reasons Why Having A Blog Makes You More Productive</a>.&#8221; However I also sometimes fear that blogging, or any writing for that matter, can also become counterproductive if it begins to take away time from other activities we could be taking part in. </p>
<p>The above quote by American writer and philosopher Henry David Thoreau sums up my feelings perfectly. If we find that we are writing about the things we do more than we are actually doing them, then things can become problematic, unbalanced, and incongruent with our self-perception. Therefore it is important that sometimes we put down our pens, shut down our computers, and go searching for what life really has to offer. This has motivated me to put together a short list of some of the things we can do to correct this imbalance. </p>
<p><font size="4"><strong>1. Pick Up A New Hobby</strong></font></p>
<p>I don&#8217;t care how old you are, unless you are on your deathbed there is no reason to not always be seeking new activities to engage yourself in. Our time on this world is limited, but the kinds of things we could be doing within that time limit are endless. Try to think of a friend who is well-versed in a subject or hobby that you may be interested in. Maybe it is a sport like volleyball or golf, or maybe it is an activity like painting or photography. Have your friend guide you through the first few stages of the learning curve until you become familiar with the fundamentals. Once you have a good enough grapple with that you can continue pursuing the activity on your own. </p>
<p><font size="4"><strong>2. Help Someone In Need</strong></font></p>
<p>Doing things for others is one of the most underrated productive things you can do. Not only are you making a difference in someone&#8217;s life but you are going to feel infinitely better because of it! Try to find a local volunteering organization, maybe a church, soup kitchen, or rehab center, and then see what you can do to help out the community. Try to volunteer on a regular basis. Even if it is only one hour a week it is still more than most, and you will still be playing your fair part in improving other people&#8217;s lives.</p>
<p><font size="4"><strong>3. Spice Up Your Living Space</strong></font></p>
<p>There is always a good excuse to change up your living environment, even if it is just for the sake of change itself. This doesn&#8217;t mean you have to go to IKEA and spend money on colorful furniture, there are plenty of creative things you can do with things you can find lying around the house. One of my favorite projects is to make collages out of old photos or magazines. You can turn this into a frame to put on the wall or even a <a href="http://www.ehow.com/how_8095_collage-tabletop.html">nice tabletop</a>. Think of your living space as a work of art. Incorporate both creativity and personal meaning, but keep it tasteful for guests. If you get too extravagant you may come off as a bit of a loony&#8230;but sometimes having fun is more important anyway.</p>
<p><font size="4"><strong>4. Challenge Yourself</strong></font></p>
<p>Deliberately find something that brings you out of your comfort zone. The point of a challenge is to push you to the next level. What is something you wouldn&#8217;t dare do? Maybe it is skydiving or that new roller coaster at Six Flags. Maybe it is even approaching that new girl from work. Whatever it is, &#8220;Go Nike And <em>Just Do It!</em>&#8221; You will feel better about yourself for pursuing the challenge, and you will be more inclined to face your fears in the future. Make sure you find something that really gets on your nerves otherwise you aren&#8217;t challenging yourself enough. </p>
<p><font size="4"><strong>5. Cook For A Friend Or Loved One</strong></font></p>
<p>This is another nice thing you could do for someone else that will also benefit you. If you already love cooking then maybe you have a favorite dish that you would like to share with someone. If not then you can check out <a href="http://allrecipes.com/">AllRecipes.com</a> (my personal favorite) and find something that you won&#8217;t screw up. It is also OK if you need an extra pair of hands to help you around the kitchen. Remember this list is about standing up to live, not fending for yourself, so the ability to ask others for assistance is still an necessary part of any healthy living strategy.</p>
<p><font size="4"><strong>6. Join An Activist Group </strong></font></p>
<p>I am sure everyone can think of a particular cause that they would like support. Nowadays there is an activist group for just about anything: animal rights, cancer awareness, fighting poverty, environmental issues, and protesting corrupt government institutions. Take a moment and think of something that you would like to change about the world. Then try searching for your cause on Google and see if you can find an organization that shares your beliefs. It typically isn&#8217;t hard to find an outlet for any kind of social, political, economic, or environmental change, and most of these organizations are non-profit, thus they are willing to have just about anyone hop on board who wishes to show support.</p>
<p><font size="4"><strong>7. Plan A Getaway</strong></font></p>
<p>I use the term &#8220;getaway&#8221; here because vacations can be expensive. Ideally you may want to visit Cancun and drink margaritas all weekend, but some of us aren&#8217;t always fortunate enough to have that option. However, just because we don&#8217;t have money doesn&#8217;t mean we can&#8217;t escape from our same ol&#8217; daily routine. Maybe there is a local beach or national park you could visit for the day. Find the time to spend a long afternoon just outside and enjoying nature. It is a great way to get in touch and remind yourself what you are really standing up and living for. Also, how could I quote Thoreau and not recommend spending more time with Mother Earth. </p>
<p><font size="4"><strong>Final Thought</strong></font></p>
<p>Don&#8217;t just sit down and wait to die! Get up right now and find something that makes a difference in you and in others. So you wanted to spend the weekend locked in your room writing another blog post? F&#8212; that! Free yourself first. Then you can write about all the rich experiences you had after the fact. Have I gotten you inspired yet?</p>
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		<title>Robert Thurman: Expanding Your Circle Of Compassion</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Nov 2009 00:05:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Steven Handel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA["It’s hard to always show compassion -- even to the people we love, but Robert Thurman asks that we develop compassion for our enemies. He prescribes a seven-step meditation exercise to extend compassion beyond our inner circle."]]></description>
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&#8220;Tenzin <strong><a href="http://www.ted.com/speakers/bob_thurman.html">Robert Thurman</a></strong> became a Tibetan monk at age 24. He&#8217;s a professor of Indo-Tibetan Buddhist studies at Columbia University, and co-founder of Tibet House US, a nonprofit dedicated to the preservation and promotion of Tibetan civilization.</p>
<p>Thurman&#8217;s focus is on the balance between inner insight and cultural harmony. In interpreting the teachings of Buddha, he argues that happiness can be reliable and satisfying in an enduring way without depriving others.</p>
<p>He has translated many Buddhist Sutras, or teachings, and written many books, recently taking on the topic of Anger for the recent Oxford series on the seven deadly sins. He maintains a podcast on Buddhist topics. And yes, he is Uma&#8217;s dad.&#8221;</ul>
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Personal statement:</strong></p>
<p>My first time being introduced to the writings of Robert Thurman was his book Infinite Life, which is listed in my <strong><a href="http://astore.amazon.com/theemomac-20">recommended books</a></strong> page. One thing that really struck me was how elegantly he drew an analogy between the scientific theory of evolution and the Buddhist concept of karma, past lives, and reincarnation. Since then I have been convinced that Buddha was truly one of the first believers in evolutionary theory. </p>
<p>Also, over last summer I stumbled across an interesting <strong><a href="http://www.guba.com/watch/3000056049/Deepak-Chopra-Robert-Thurman-God-and-Buddha-a-dialogue">video</a></strong> of Deepak Chopra engaging in a dialogue with Thurman at the <strong><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tibet_House">Tibet House</a> </strong>in New York City. The topic centers around the philosophy behind God and Buddha.</p>
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