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		<title>Do You Live In A Culture Of Fitness?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 07 Sep 2010 21:41:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Steven Handel</dc:creator>
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<p><font size="3">Whenever I used to adopt healthier habits, I would usually follow through with them for about a week or two, and then go back to my old ways. It wasn&#8217;t that I <em>chose</em> to go back to my old habits &#8211; it was more like a reflex &#8211; or a rubber band snapping back to its original form. Whatever it was, it felt beyond my control, as if I was predestined to be unhealthy and lazy. For a long time my lack of commitment frustrated me to no end.</p>
<p>As a kid I never grew up being very physically active. I did some little league sports, I liked gym class, but it wasn&#8217;t something that ever became a consistent part of my life. My free time was typically spend in front of computers, videogames, and eating fast food. </p>
<p>Meanwhile, other classmates were much more health conscious: they went to the gym everyday, participated on the high school football team, organized softball games over the summer, and lived in households that encouraged eating vegetables and drinking protein shakes.</p>
<p>These different lifestyles represent two different cultures. One where health awareness is a prevalent theme, and the other where it is largely absent. We all experience these cultures to different degrees.</p>
<p>But our culture is not chained to our childhood and family. We have the ability to change our routines even as adults. We start by becoming more aware of our habits, and then we begin to make small adjustments as we find healthier alternatives. At first we may just do 10 push-ups every morning, then we might add an evening walk after dinner. For breakfast, we begin to substitute bacon for a fruit salad, and at night we limit our TV snack to only one scoop of ice cream instead of two. Every change is a step in the right direction, and each one builds on the momentum from the last.</p>
<p>If you have a problem keeping commitments, just start by doing whatever is most convenient. Something is always better than nothing, and if you keep building little habits then it will add up over time. Remember, you are trying to make changes that will persist for a lifetime, not simply spend the 3 months before summer trying to pump up (and then losing those gains come next winter). If the culture isn&#8217;t there, if you aren&#8217;t planning for something permanent, any progress you make will be temporary at best.</p>
<p>The hardest part about changing your culture is making those first few steps. You need to get in the habit of changing habits, and once you have ingrained that into your mind you will be open to change when it presents itself. These things begin to have a snowball effect, and one day you will look back and wonder how you ever went from &#8220;couch potato&#8221; to &#8220;health guru.&#8221; It began with that first sit-up.</p>
<p>There are a lot of effective ways to build up your culture. You could make friends who encourage these new habits, find exercises you enjoy, or keep a diary to keep track of your progress. One of my most popular articles is <a href="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/fifty-ways-to-stay-committed">Fifty Ways to Stay Committed</a>, which suggests these techniques as well as many others that will help you instill change. It is probably worth skimming through.</p>
<p>I also recommend <a href="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/routines-vs-rituals-the-difference-between-dull-living-and-empowerment">Routines vs. Rituals</a>, which drives home the point that a ritual is an action with meaning and purpose, while a routine is heartless and treated like a chore. If your fitness regimen becomes a chore, you&#8217;ve already lost the battle. There is no culture there &#8211; no drive, no passion, and no commitment. Basically, it won&#8217;t last. </p>
<p>I encourage people to become <em>engaged </em>in their health, to be internally motivated to maintaining a healthy and fit body, and not reactive to the external and often superficial pressures placed on us by society. This is how you build authenticity that lasts.</p>
<p>While I haven&#8217;t recommended any particular exercises, diets, or work-out schedules, my point of this post was to stress the importance of building your own rituals and culture. If you are someone who has been a health nut for awhile, then you are probably already familiar with some ways you have developed these things unconsciously. If you are someone who is just beginning to develop a new culture of fitness, then I hope you have learned why they are so important. </p>
<p>I will touch on some more concrete examples and strategies in upcoming posts. For now, I just want others to get the attitude right.</p>
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		<title>Goal: Become A Professional Writer</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Jun 2010 23:37:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Steven Handel</dc:creator>
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<strong><br />
<font size="3">Past Uncertainties and Convictions</strong></font></p>
<p>It has now been a good 5 months since I&#8217;ve last written about goal-making (see <a href="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/re-visiting-your-goals-and-aspirations">1</a>, <a href="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/create-a-progressive-timeline-to-better-envision-your-goals">2</a>). To be honest, the delay is probably due to my own sense of limbo about what I want to pursue as a career.  </p>
<p>It has now been almost 1/2 a year since I&#8217;ve graduated college, and although I have been keeping busy diving into my own personal interests, I have yet to draw any clear path about where I want to be in the future. </p>
<p>Is this normal for a recent graduate? Maybe, maybe not. </p>
<p>Either way, I know panicking won&#8217;t do me any good, so I remain <a href="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/start-the-new-decade-by-focusing-on-relaxation">relax and focused</a>. </p>
<p>It&#8217;s not that I don&#8217;t spend time thinking about the future &#8211; I do and I do it often &#8211; but I want make sure that when I find my niche that it is something I can become fully engaged in. The last place I want to be in 40 years is at some dead-end job with no love or pride for my craft. </p>
<p>Long ago I came to the conviction that there need not be a difference between work and play. That one can simultaneously do what they love and prosper from it <strong>if they put their mind to it</strong>. First, I need faith in my capacity to think, grow, and create value. </p>
<p>Believing I can achieve something must be the first prerequisite for actually going out and doing it.</p>
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<font size="3">Mission Statement</strong></font></p>
<p>Throughout my life I have always had some desire to write. As a kid I remember thinking up short screenplays, reviewing video games online, and expressing my feelings about loved ones through lyrics and poetry. Today, I continue to make a conscious effort to improve my writing ability by blogging on sites such as this one and <a href="http://www.libertarianminds.com">Libertarian Minds</a>.</p>
<p>The past year has been an experiment to see if I can <a href="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/fifty-ways-to-stay-committed">stay committed</a> to blogging and still come out enjoying it in the end &#8211; I do. </p>
<p>That is why I now want to take my craft to the next stage. This, to me, means <strong>turning it into a profession.</strong></p>
<p>First, I want to create a mission statement. Then I will write it above my desk, so I can recite it every morning. This one simple <a href="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/routines-vs-rituals-the-difference-between-dull-living-and-empowerment">ritual</a> will help me to maintain <a href="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/how-to-think-less-and-do-more-turning-life-into-flow">flow</a> and keep my mind concentrated on the habits I need to adopt in order to be successful. </p>
<p>Here is a picture of my mission statement written on a dry-erase board: </p>
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<p>To become a professional writer I will follow my self-appointed mantra of RAWA meaning  &#8220;Read A lot, Write A lot.&#8221; In it there are 6 tenets: consume, digest, rest, grow, repeat, and evolve.</p>
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<strong>1. CONSUME A LOT OF MATERIAL</strong></font></p>
<p>Lucky for me I love reading and I already go to all sorts of different websites on a daily basis. Over the year I have accumulated a list of my favorite and most informative resources:</p>
<p><strong><br />
<u>Mainstream Media</u></strong></p>
<p><a href="http://www.cnn.com/">CNN.com</a><br />
<a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/">MSNBC </a><br />
<a href="http://www.foxnews.com/politics/index.html">FOXNews</a></p>
<p>Sites to follow the most up-to-date news of popular issues.</p>
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<u>Libertarian Opinion/Blogs</u></strong></p>
<p><a href="http://reason.com/">Reason</a><br />
<a href="http://www.cato.org/">Cato Institute</a><br />
<a href="http://mises.org/">Ludwig von Mises Institute</a><br />
<a href="http://www.campaignforliberty.com/">Campaign For Liberty</a><br />
<a href="http://fee.org/">Foundation for Economic Education</a><br />
<a href="http://antiwar.com/">Anti-War.com</a><br />
<a href="http://c4ss.org/">Center for a Stateless Society</a><br />
<a href="http://www.aynrand.org/site/PageServer?pagename=index&#038;cvridirect=true">Ayn Rand Institute</a><br />
<a href="http://www.capitalismmagazine.com/">Capitalism Magazine</a><br />
<a href="http://jeffreymiron.com/">Libertarianism from A to Z: Jeffrey Miron&#8217;s blog</a><br />
<a href="http://thinkmarkets.wordpress.com/">Think Markets</a><br />
<a href="http://www.marginalrevolution.com/">Marginal Revolution: Tyler Cowek and Alex Tabarrok&#8217;s blog</a><br />
<a href="http://lewrockwell.com/">LewRockwell.com </a><br />
<a href="http://www.stephankinsella.com/">Stephan Kinsella</a><br />
<a href="http://aaeblog.com/">Austro-Athenian Empire &#8211; Roderick Long&#8217;s blog</a><br />
<a href="http://consultingbyrpm.com/blog">Free Advice &#8211; Bob Murphy&#8217;s blog</a><br />
<a href="http://daviddfriedman.blogspot.com/">Ideas &#8211; David Friedman&#8217;s blog</a><br />
<a href="http://fringeelements.info/">Fringe Elements &#8211; Ryan Faulk&#8217;s blog</a><br />
<a href="http://www.economicpolicyjournal.com/">Economic Policy Journal &#8211; Robert Wenzel&#8217;s blog</a><br />
<a href="http://sheldonfreeassociation.blogspot.com/">Free Association &#8211; Sheldon Richman&#8217;s blog</a><br />
<a href="http://bradspangler.com/">Brad Spangler</a><br />
<a href="http://www.fr33agents.com/">Fr33 Agents</a></p>
<p>Professional resources and personal blogs to help build a comprehensive libertarian philosophy. More to be added.</p>
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<u>Alternative Opinion/Blogs</u></strong></p>
<p><a href="http://www.salon.com/news/">Salon</a><br />
<a href="http://www.smithsonianmag.com/">Smithsonian Magazine</a><br />
<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/politics/">Huffington Post</a><br />
<a href="http://www.nytimes.com/">New York Times</a><br />
<a href="http://www.bloomberg.com/news/">Bloomberg</a><br />
<a href="http://online.wsj.com/home-page">WallStreet Journal</a><br />
<a href="http://www.alternet.org/news/">Alternet</a><br />
<a href="http://dailykos.com/">DailyKOS</a><br />
<a href="http://dailycaller.com/">The Daily Caller</a><br />
<a href="http://www.politico.com/">Politico</a><br />
<a href="http://www.newyorker.com/">New Yorker</a><br />
<a href="http://fora.tv/">Fora.TV</a><br />
<a href="http://www.rollingstone.com/politics">Rolling Stone</a><br />
<a href="http://krugman.blogs.nytimes.com/">The Conscience of a Liberal &#8211; Paul Krugman&#8217;s blog</a><br />
<a href="http://libcom.org/">Libcom.org</a></p>
<p>Other resources to stay knowledgeable about opposing opinions. This is important to help keep a well-rounded view. More to be added. </p>
<p>I will try to visit most of these sites at least once every week. The big ones like CNN.com (or ones I really enjoy like Mises.org), will probably be visited more frequently. I also go to <a href="http://www.reddit.com">reddit</a> everyday where users post articles from all over the web. </p>
<p>The main point of building a huge list like this is to always have reading material available and to have access to a wide range of viewpoints and philosophies. </p>
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<strong>2. DIGEST IT ALL</strong></font></p>
<p>It would be wasteful to read hours everyday but to never <a href="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/separate-the-face-from-the-idea">think critically</a> about the content. I believe contemplation is one of the most important mechanism to human learning. </p>
<p><a href="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/can-stillness-and-reflection-improve-learning">Studies</a> have shown that when rats are given time to reflect, they learn faster than rats who don&#8217;t.  Time spent introspecting on one&#8217;s thought patterns can help us better understand our beliefs. We may even discover that we have made a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Logical_fallacy">logical fallacy</a> or a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_bias">cognitive bias</a>.</p>
<p>Humans are infallible but they are also self-correcting. There is no need to be alarmed when a belief of ours has been challenged. Instead it should be seen as an opportunity for growth. Those who deny their mistakes will always remain fixed where they stand, but those who are willing to weigh other alternatives are more likely to progress their understanding and step forward as intellectuals.</p>
<p>Digesting material means to put a conscious effort into reflecting on what we have learned and how it fits into our worldview. </p>
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<strong>3. REST</strong></font></p>
<p>Between all this reading and thinking I am going to need some leisure time. This means things like nap-taking, hanging out with friends, listening to music, watching Mets games, and going out to dinner. Life stuff. Stuff less mentally-intensive so my mind has a chance to rejuvenate itself. After all, variety keeps the mind healthy and balanced. </p>
<p>Including rest in your routine is the difference between hard work and smart work. Also, one positive thing about actively taking your mind off of your work is that it lets your unconscious mull over ideas as you engage yourself in other activities. </p>
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<strong>4. GROW</strong></font></p>
<p>Once I have consumed, digested, and taken a healthy break, I am then ready to apply my knowledge into the form of writing. </p>
<p>While the digestion phase was about breaking down information, the growth phase is about integrating information into an article that conveys a coherent theme. All writing, whether fiction or non-fiction, is the process of connecting old ideas and transforming them into something new, something more contemporary, and something more aligned with the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zeitgeist">zeitgeist</a> of the times. It is the process of moving knowledge forward. </p>
<p>To fulfill my goal I must write each and everyday, even if it is just for a little bit. If by the end of the day I am not happy with what I have written &#8211; and it never gets published or even posted on a blog &#8211; it is still a worthy exercise in critical thinking and creativity. I think of it as analogous to a professional baseball pitcher: although it may not always be there day to start a game, they still go out in the bullpen and throw some pitches everyday, because that is how they keep their skills sharp.</p>
<p>If you want to be good at something you need to live and breathe it. It needs to be a part of your daily routine. By aiming to write everyday I am setting a precedent to continuously improve until I reach that next plateau. </p>
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<strong>5. REPEAT. REPEAT. REPEAT.</strong></font></p>
<p>We all have certain habits which we repeat day-in and day-out. They become automatic or &#8220;second nature.&#8221; One beauty of the human mind is that we can consciously choose to replace existing habits with new ones &#8211; to reinforce &#8220;positive&#8221; behavior and punish &#8220;negative&#8221; behavior (however an individual may come to define those terms).</p>
<p>Over the last year I have built up a habit of reading, thinking, and writing about political philosophy, economics, and society at large. It is something I have developed a passion for which is why I now picture myself doing it as a career.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t want to be simply good at it but great at it. I want people to read what I have to say and walk away more educated, more independent-thinking, and more inspired by life around them. I want them to think, &#8220;this is so good, I want my friends to read this.&#8221; </p>
<p>But this kind of value can only be created if I am dedicated to my craft, which means: practice, practice, practice. I believe that the more I immerse myself in an activity, the better and faster of a learner I will be. </p>
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<strong>6. EVOLVE</strong></font></p>
<p>Evolution is a series of adaptations and changes over time. In many ways, it is spontaneous and unpredictable. Often the order is not clear until you look back on it. </p>
<p>This post marks a starting point for my pursuit as a professional writer, but only time will tell where I will end up a year, five years, or ten years down the line.</p>
<p>While I may not know the specifics of where this path is heading, I do know that if I stay devoted to my mantra of RAWA (&#8220;Read A lot, Write A lot&#8221;), and its 6 tenets, that it will lead me somewhere productive and fruitful. </p>
<p>The human mind can facilitate positive evolution by identifying value and producing it over time. Only by adding value to our lives and the lives of others do we progress as humans and make life worth living.</p>
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<strong>ENDING NOTE</strong></font></p>
<p>At its core the RAWA strategy is simple: get emerged in reading and writing and I will soon build the skills to enter the professional domain. </p>
<p>Of course, this is not all one needs to be successful. Along with actually having the ability, one also needs to know how to network, market their product, and land opportunities. These will be issues I will try and resolve in later posts. </p>
<p>For now, my main focus is thinking of myself as a writer, reinforcing these positive rituals (consume digest, rest, grow, repeat, evolve), and eventually building a portfolio of my best material to send to editors.  </p>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 29 Mar 2010 17:40:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Steven Handel</dc:creator>
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<p>How does our spiritual identity affect our actions and how we shape our world?</p>
<p><strong><font size="4"><font color="#990000">Modus Operandi</font></font></strong></p>
<p>When I think of the &#8220;spirit&#8221; of something I think of its <em>modus operandi</em>; what is its &#8220;method of operating?&#8221; What makes it function? What drives it to work? </p>
<p>When I think of the spirit of a human being, I ask myself, &#8220;What does that being live for?&#8221; What makes him or her get up every morning? What makes his or her life worth living? What source of energy does that person draw upon to do what they do?</p>
<p><strong><font size="4"><font color="#990000">Unspoken Values</font></font></strong></p>
<p>Evolution and biology can describe the reasons behind a lot of basic instincts and behavior, but they don&#8217;t answer a whole lot about the values we hold implicitly through our traditions, customs, culture, and art.</p>
<p>We all go through rituals that define our existence. It could be watching TV, going to church, reading books, meditating, playing sports, doing your job, eating, videogames, working out at the gym, writing, taking care of your kids&#8230; you get the point &#8211; <em>if you do it periodically then it is a ritual</em> &#8211; and these habits implicitly tell us what we value out of life.</p>
<p>But how often do you ask yourself, &#8220;Why do I do the things I do?&#8221;</p>
<p>It can seem like a stupid question because we take these things for granted. Maybe you do them because you have always done them and that is just who you are. I hear people give me that response a lot, but that is <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Circular_reasoning">circular reasoning</a>; saying those things only reinforces who we are, even if that modus operandi isn&#8217;t doing ourselves much justice.</p>
<p><strong><font size="4"><font color="#990000">Backbone = Identity</font></font></strong></p>
<p>I wouldn&#8217;t say that our actions define ourselves (although that might be a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Behaviorism">behaviorist</a> approach to identity), but I do think <font color="#FFFF99">how we define ourselves plays a significant role in our actions</font>.</p>
<p>Buddism and many Eastern philosophies put a strong emphasis on the &#8220;nature of self&#8221; as a spiritual guide. They also recognize that how we think of our self determines certain values we hold about our world. For example, many schools of Buddhism recognize a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nondualism">non-dualistic</a> nature between self/other (that we are all interconnected and no one is separate), thus compassion and loving-kindness become logical moral values to hold in our relationships with friends, family, neighbors, coworkers other acquaintances, and nature itself. </p>
<p>Some of the big questions regarding anybody&#8217;s life are, </p>
<ul>
<li>&#8220;How do I fit into the world at large?&#8221; </li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>
&#8220;What purpose do I serve in life?&#8221; </li>
</ul>
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<li>
&#8220;How can I improve conditions for myself and others?&#8221;</li>
</ul>
<p>Only you can answer these questions with your own reason and experience, but let it be known that your answers have a profound impact on how you live your life. Thus, I would argue these questions are worth contemplating through daily introspection, meditation, or prayer.</p>
<p><strong><font size="4"><font color="#990000">Getting Off The Soapbox For A Moment</font></font></strong></p>
<p>Before I conclude this post let me just clear up a few things that often get misunderstood when I write about spirituality. <font color="#FFFF99">I do not intend to change anyone&#8217;s values or how they live their life.</font> What I am <em>suggesting</em> is that we take the time to question why we live the way we do. It is a deep question, directed towards you, but not one that I can provide the answers for.</p>
<p>I think when we try to make a change or improvement in our lives we often take the most basic questions for granted. But often those fundamental questions are the catalysts for the biggest improvements one can make in their life.</p>
<p>I write in order to get people thinking and re-evaluating <em>that</em> world which we take for granted. I want to bring into light implicit assumptions and beliefs, and get individuals to think critically about these ideas they have grown up with all their life. Through doing this individuals can grow a stronger backbone, become more dedicated to what they actually love to do, and drop actions which have become &#8220;no good&#8221; habits of familiarity that we have wrongly identified to.</p>
<p>But &#8211; because we are all diverse individuals with separate interests and talents &#8211; it is up to each from their own individual perspective to decide what is right and wrong for them. There is no objective good for everyone; our traditions, culture, art, and tastes (our &#8220;pursuit of happiness&#8221;) should be particular to our personality. We should not take anything as given just because we have grown up with it or some higher authority has &#8220;bestowed&#8221; it upon us. Even the values I hold implicitly in my writings should be doubted and questioned.</p>
<p><strong><font size="4"><font color="#990000">A Healthy Backbone Builds New Elements, Gets Rid Of Old</font></font></strong></p>
<p>A spiritual backbone gives you a center to stand on but it is not necessarily fixed in one place. Just like your spine is built of various bone elements, your spiritual spine too is mobile and multi-faceted. The only thing different is your spiritual spine never stops growing and evolving in new ways (whether you are conscious of it or not).</p>
<p>Your relationship with the world is never fixed, it is always changing; new aspects are constantly arising and fading into the ever-expanding shape of time. From a day-to-day basis things may seem to be moving slow, but when you reflect on months or years they can seem like eternities apart. The world is actually a really exciting and dynamic place if we keep our eyes open to it. Not many things remain the same over extended periods of time. Isn&#8217;t that what evolution is all about?</p>
<p>The only thing worse than not having a spiritual backbone at all is having a concrete one, which refuses to change in the face of new evidence and experience. Extreme fundamentalists from all religions share this illness, like when <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biblical_literalism">biblical literalism</a> takes precedence over scientifically-gathered facts.</p>
<p>Man is not omniscient nor infallible, that is why God forgives and, most importantly, why we should forgive ourselves. All actions and creations of men, including the Bible, are not perfect. This is why spirituality in all of its form is a never-ending process and not a goal-seeking one.</p>
<p><strong><font size="4"><font color="#990000">Living In Congruence</font></font></strong> </p>
<p>When our unspoken values become spoken we are more conscious of the driving forces in our world. Now we know why we get up every morning and we are proud to live out our lives in congruences with those values.</p>
<p>This requires a higher level of consciousness. No longer is our modus operandi like a puppet on strings, but now we are the puppet masters. We understand the reason behind our rituals; we don&#8217;t just live them out obediently but with a sense of joy, flow, and engagement. There is purpose behind every action. We embody what we believe and we act in accordance. As Gandhi once said, we &#8220;Become the change we wish to see in the world.&#8221; Within that cycle, within every action, we are constantly being born and re-born into a different world. </p>
<p>So don&#8217;t stay static, never be afraid to re-align your spiritual backbone, and keep living the life you want to live (as you see fit). The world depends on your moral courage and aptitude. </p>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 04 Mar 2010 15:18:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Steven Handel</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><font size="3">NLP, or Neuro-Linguistic Processing, is a set of inter-and-intra-personal communication techniques first developed by psychotherapist Richard Bandler and linguist John Grinder (who worked together under the tutelage of British anthropologist Gregory Bateson). It&#8217;s purpose was to discover the linguistic underpinnings of mental states and how they effect our behaviors, and to later use this knowledge to modify our habits. It can be practiced through introspection (now more scientifically known as <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Metacognition" target="_blank">metacognition</a>) or guided conversation.</p>
<p>Specifically, the goal of NLP is to model how others think and behave, including those who are creative. What are the strategies a so-called &#8220;creative person&#8221; plays out in their heads? What is the structure of their experience, and what mental steps do they take before producing a creative outcome? Or, is it all spontaneous? And if so, how does one increase the chances of such a spontaneity occurring? These are the types of questions an NLP practitioner would ask.</p>
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<font color="#990000"><strong>The Disney Creative Strategy</font></font></strong></p>
<p>The most popular NLP technique designed to enhance creativity is the &#8220;<a href="http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&#038;source=web&#038;ct=res&#038;cd=1&#038;ved=0CAoQFjAA&#038;url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.trulyhumancoaching.com%2Fneurolinguistic_programming_articles%2Fdisney_creative_strategy.pdf&#038;ei=4ISOS6D5KM-UtgeZ47ydCw&#038;usg=AFQjCNGKWetvyP7fNg-p_296LfE4Gd0bEA&#038;sig2=nqoSt4X_QYVA7x7ACdrBcA">Disney Strategy</a>,&#8221; (4 page PDF) first modeled by Robert Dilts based on his conversations with filmmaker Walt Disney. </p>
<ul>>&#8221;Dilts noticed that Disney had three separate approaches to his creative work and he alternated between these roles, which Dilts identified as Dreamer, Realist, and Critic. Each role has a distinct orientation in relation to the creative process:  the dreamer is the place of free association, brainstorming and even fantasies; the realist is the place of action, of imagining putting the dreams into the physical world; and the critic is the place of testing the soundness of your idea’s, checking in on what will or won’t work.&#8221; </ul>
<p>Dilts believes that we each have a part of us that can identify with these roles. However, some of us are more of one than another. What happens if we don&#8217;t find a balance?</p>
<ul> &#8220;A dreamer without a realist cannot turn ideas into tangible expressions. A critic and a dreamer without a realist just become stuck in a perpetual conflict. A dreamer and a realist might create things, but they might not be very usable ideas without a critic. The critic helps to evaluate and refine the products of creativity.&#8221; </ul>
<p>So the main question is: throughout the creative process how can we develop each of these roles? The answer Dilts provides says that we should set aside a time and place for each of these mental attitudes:</p>
<ul>
<p><strong><br />
<font size="3">1. First put yourself in the role of <u>The Dreamer.</u></font></strong> Write down any and all ideas that come to mind. Make as many freely associated connections as possible, let your thoughts just flow without any limitation or worry on how to put these ideas into action.</p>
<p><strong><br />
<font size="3">2. Next put yourself in the role of <u>The Realist.</u></font></strong> Now ask yourself, &#8220;How can I put these ideas into a reality? What resources (money/time/skills) do I need?&#8221; Write these down.</p>
<p><strong><br />
<font size="3">3. Then put yourself in the role of <u>The Critic.</u></font></strong> Now it is time to try and find the flaws of your strategy. What don&#8217;t you like? What potential obstacles are there? What needs improvement? Write these down.</p>
<p><strong><br />
<font size="3">4. Now step outside your triangle of roles.</font></strong> Observe your reaction to each &#8211; are you being a good Dreamer, Realist, and Critic? How can you improve each?</p>
<p><strong><br />
<font size="3">5. Cycle through each role again.</font></strong> Using any insights from #4, cycle through the roles again, this time being an even better Dreamer, Realist, and Critic.<br />
<strong></strong></p>
<p><strong><br />
<font size="3">6. Take your ideas to action</font></strong> Do the above as many times as needed until you can begin putting your ideas to action. Even as you carry out your plan, keep these three elements in mind at all times.
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<p>How much time you spend in each session is up to you. I recommend at least 5-10 minutes of brainstorming, idea-jotting, and question-asking per role. When I first tried this strategy I used to even light different-scented candles; which became a self-conditioned stimuli (an <em>anchor</em>, for those familiar with NLP lingo) to help me get into each mindset. You can use other habits (or &#8220;<a href="http://www.theemotionmachine.com/routines-vs-rituals-the-difference-between-dull-living-and-empowerment" target="_blank">rituals</a>&#8220;) to help amplify your creative roles as you practice them more and more.</p>
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<font color="#990000"><strong>Another Way To Deconstruct Creativity</font></font></strong></p>
<p>The other day I came across an article on the blog Litemind called, &#8220;<a href="http://litemind.com/creativity-roles/" target="_blank">Deconstructing Creativity: The 4 Roles You Need To Play To Be Fully Creative</a>,&#8221; and although I don&#8217;t think the author Luciano Passuello intended it, his strategy is actually very similar to Walt Disney&#8217;s. </p>
<p>The 4 roles Luciano identifies are:</p>
<ul>
<p><strong><font size="3">1. <u>The Explorer</u></font></strong> (be curious and alert, seek out as many inputs as possible, and talk to a lot of different people).</p>
<p><strong><font size="3">2. <u>The Artist</u></font></strong> (flex your idea muscles, play, use your imagination, and integrate different concepts).</p>
<p><strong><font size="3">3. <u>The Judge</u></font></strong> (be real, develop critical thinking, and be aware of thinking traps/biases). </p>
<p><strong><font size="3">4. <u>The Warrior</u></font></strong> (get into action, overcome resistance, be courageous, and find out how to market and sell your idea).
</ul>
<p>Passuello doesn&#8217;t mention NLP but, like in NLP, he creates a very thorough model of his own personal creative strategy. </p>
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<font color="#990000"><strong>Other possible models</strong></font><br />
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<p><font size="3"><strong>1. Real world examples</font></strong> </p>
<p>Do you have a friend, family member, coworker, or acquaintance who you think makes a good Dreamer, Realist or Critic? Why not use that as a resource to improve your creative process? You&#8217;d probably be surprised how much you can learn by pretending to think as someone else. How does your physiology change? How do your thoughts change? How do your motivations change?</p>
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<strong>2. Fictitious characters</font></strong> </p>
<p>Same thing as above, but this time pay attention to the thoughts and behaviors of characters in movies, TV, books, or plays. Imagine yourself in those roles. How does your physiology change? How do your thoughts change? How do your motivations change?</p>
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		<title>Routines vs. Rituals</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 29 Jan 2010 23:10:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Steven Handel</dc:creator>
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<p><font size="3">The difference between a routine and a ritual is not the action, but the attitude behind the action.</p>
<p>To some, a routine is getting up every morning, brushing your teeth, taking a shower, getting dressed, and going to work. It is not a meaningful part of our day, but it needs to get done so we do it. It&#8217;s a chore.</p>
<p>Rituals, on the other hand, are viewed as more meaningful practices. Often, there is symbolism involved, and a real sense of purpose. A big part of it is your subjective experience of the activity. I define the key differences as follows:</p>
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<th>Routines</th>
<th>Rituals</th>
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<td>Minimal engagement.</td>
<td>Full engagement.</td>
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<td>Tedious and meaningless.</td>
<td>Symbolic and meaningful</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Externally motivated.</td>
<td>Internally motivated.</td>
</tr>
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<td>Life as a duty.</td>
<td>Life as a celebration.</td>
</tr>
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<td>Dull awareness.</td>
<td>Bright awareness.</td>
</tr>
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<td>Disconnected series of events.</td>
<td>Tells a story.</td>
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<td>Little sense of belonging.</td>
<td>Sense of belonging.</td>
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<td>Focus only on completion of tasks.</td>
<td>Focus on performance of tasks.</td>
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