social intelligence quiz

See how you read the room, adjust to different people, and handle the give-and-take of conversation.


Answer all 25 questions based on how you usually act in everyday social situations.

1. I can usually tell when a conversation has run its course and it's time to move on.
2. I pay attention to how people treat others, not just how they treat me.
3. I often have trouble explaining my point in a way others can follow.
4. I often miss when someone is joking or being sarcastic.
5. I tend to keep arguing after the conversation stops being productive.
6. I usually notice when someone's tone or body language doesn't match what they're saying.
7. When I realize something I said landed badly, I can usually acknowledge it and recover.
8. I tend to share more personal information than the situation calls for.
9. When someone is upset, I can usually respond without making the situation more tense.
10. I can adjust how I communicate depending on the person and situation.
11. I often misjudge when or where to bring up a sensitive topic.
12. I often realize I’ve misread the tone of an interaction only after it’s over.
13. When I’m unsure what someone means, I ask if I’ve understood them correctly.
14. I tend to keep a joke going even when I can tell it isn’t landing.
15. I can usually tell who has influence in a group, even when they aren't the loudest person.
16. I can usually tell when someone wants advice and when they mostly want to be heard.
17. I tend to talk about myself without asking much about the other person.
18. I often struggle to tell how formal or casual I should be in a new setting.
19. I can stay focused on what someone is saying instead of just waiting for my turn to talk.
20. I notice when I'm dominating a conversation and make room for other people.
21. I can disagree with someone without making the interaction unnecessarily hostile.
22. I can usually find a natural way into an ongoing conversation.
23. I notice when the mood or energy of a group shifts.
24. I can usually tell what kind of humor fits the people and situation I'm in.
25. In group conversations, I often miss when someone is being left out.