Who doesn’t want to have harmonious relationships with members of their own family? As much you and your spouse love each other, obligations, children, and perhaps some family issues can result in you not being as close as you used to be. When you’re close with your family, it’s great for all members – kids grow up knowing that they’re loved, and spouses remember their love from the time when they just started dating and first fell in love. If you spend time with your family doing meaningful activities, you’ll become more open, calmer, and more self-confident than ever before. Give a try to some of these activities they will help you strengthen the family bonds and at the same time grow your self-esteem.
Exactly 8 years ago today, The Emotion Machine published its very first article.
At the time when I first started this website, I had no idea what it was going to turn into. Now we have over 500 articles about a range of topics in psychology and self improvement, along with thousands of readers on a daily basis.
Despite this success, The Emotion Machine is still a baby to me – and it still has a lot of growing to do.
Most new websites don’t last more than 3 years, but I’ve been determined to keep this site alive and make sure it reaches its full potential. In many ways, it’s become the backbone of my life.
So whether you’re completely new to this site, or you’ve been following The Emotion Machine since the beginning, I want to give you a big “thank you” for being here and showing your support – it truly means the world to me.
Let’s recollect on some of the great content that have been created on this site over the years.
The other day, I had the pleasure of accidentally overhearing a conversation.
Two women, perhaps in their early to mid-thirties, were in my local Starbucks at the table next to me. Both were unhappy in some way – one had an issue with her partner, and the other hadn’t been sleeping well.
The first woman said she “needed something more” in her life. The second kept giving her suggestions – was she bored at work? Maybe she needed a new hobby, or a new haircut? But, the first woman just couldn’t put her finger on what it was that she was “missing.”
Not wanting to butt in, I knew exactly what the “thing” she was missing was:
We all crave meaning and purpose in our lives, but many of us have difficulty finding it.
Often times without meaning, we can fall into a “nihilistic trap” of thinking nothing in our life really matters and we are just mindless machines going through the motions.
However according to the new book The Power of Meaning: Crafting a Life That Matters by Emily Esfahani Smith, there are many potential sources to find meaning in our lives. This article will breakdown these into 5 different pillars: belonging, purpose, storytelling, transcendence and growth.
Interestingly, psychology research is beginning to discover that finding “meaning” is just as important as finding “happiness.”
In one study, participants were asked over a 10 day period to either do an activity that was related to “pleasure” (sleeping in, playing video games, going shopping, or eating sweets) or do an activity that was related to “virtue” (forgiving a friend, studying, thinking about one’s values, and helping or cheering another person).
Those who were placed in the “pleasure” condition reported an increase in positive emotions right away, but those positive emotions often faded quickly. Those who were placed in the “virtue” condition didn’t report as much positive emotion, but they did report more increased well-being in the long-term.
Aristotle was one of the first philosophers to draw a distinction between “hedonism” (life of pleasure) and “eudaimonia” (life of meaning):
- “To Aristotle, eudaimonia is not a fleeting positive emotion. Rather, it is something you do. Leading a eudaimonic life, Aristotle argued, requires cultivating the best qualities within you both morally and intellectually and living up to your potential. It is an active life, a life in which you do your job and contribute to society, a life in which you are involved in your community, a life, above all, in which you realize your potential, rather than squander your talents.”
This is a good summary of what it means to live a meaningful life. It often requires being able to connect and contribute to something that is larger than ourselves. It’s more than just chasing pleasurable feelings.
The rest of this article will describe these 5 fundamental pillars behind a meaningful and purposeful life.
This is a guest post from Regan at Fix My Broken Mind, a site that focussing on rebuilding your well being from the ground up.
The benefits of building a better body stretch far beyond looking good and inflating our egos.
Through lifting weights and exercising we are able to improve our lives on more fundamental levels than one.
As you begin to see changes in your body you begin to see a different person.
This new person you are looking at can do things the old you would have never dreamed possible.
After all, if you can change your body you can change your life…