Self Actualization: A Beginner’s Guide

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Fliss blogs over at Sweet Clean Living, focusing on personal development for the mind and body. Whether you want to banish your insomnia, improve your self confidence or learn how to avoid toxic people, Fliss has something for you – try her free 50 Every Day Life Hacks Cheat Sheet and have your best day ever – every day!

The other day, I had the pleasure of accidentally overhearing a conversation.

Two women, perhaps in their early to mid-thirties, were in my local Starbucks at the table next to me. Both were unhappy in some way – one had an issue with her partner, and the other hadn’t been sleeping well.

The first woman said she “needed something more” in her life. The second kept giving her suggestions – was she bored at work? Maybe she needed a new hobby, or a new haircut? But, the first woman just couldn’t put her finger on what it was that she was “missing.”

Not wanting to butt in, I knew exactly what the “thing” she was missing was:

Self actualization.

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5 Fundamental Pillars for Building a Meaningful and Purposeful Life


We all crave meaning and purpose in our lives, but many of us have difficulty finding it.

Often times without meaning, we can fall into a “nihilistic trap” of thinking nothing in our life really matters and we are just mindless machines going through the motions.

However according to the new book The Power of Meaning: Crafting a Life That Matters by Emily Esfahani Smith, there are many potential sources to find meaning in our lives. This article will breakdown these into 5 different pillars: belonging, purpose, storytelling, transcendence and growth.

Interestingly, psychology research is beginning to discover that finding “meaning” is just as important as finding “happiness.”

In one study, participants were asked over a 10 day period to either do an activity that was related to “pleasure” (sleeping in, playing video games, going shopping, or eating sweets) or do an activity that was related to “virtue” (forgiving a friend, studying, thinking about one’s values, and helping or cheering another person).

Those who were placed in the “pleasure” condition reported an increase in positive emotions right away, but those positive emotions often faded quickly. Those who were placed in the “virtue” condition didn’t report as much positive emotion, but they did report more increased well-being in the long-term.

Aristotle was one of the first philosophers to draw a distinction between “hedonism” (life of pleasure) and “eudaimonia” (life of meaning):

    “To Aristotle, eudaimonia is not a fleeting positive emotion. Rather, it is something you do. Leading a eudaimonic life, Aristotle argued, requires cultivating the best qualities within you both morally and intellectually and living up to your potential. It is an active life, a life in which you do your job and contribute to society, a life in which you are involved in your community, a life, above all, in which you realize your potential, rather than squander your talents.”

This is a good summary of what it means to live a meaningful life. It often requires being able to connect and contribute to something that is larger than ourselves. It’s more than just chasing pleasurable feelings.

The rest of this article will describe these 5 fundamental pillars behind a meaningful and purposeful life.

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How Building A Better Body Can Change Your Life

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This is a guest post from Regan at Fix My Broken Mind, a site that focussing on rebuilding your well being from the ground up.

The benefits of building a better body stretch far beyond looking good and inflating our egos.

Through lifting weights and exercising we are able to improve our lives on more fundamental levels than one.

As you begin to see changes in your body you begin to see a different person.

This new person you are looking at can do things the old you would have never dreamed possible.

After all, if you can change your body you can change your life…

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Why Recovery is Important for Both Yourself and Your Loved Ones


Drug addiction is a very serious disorder that shouldn’t be taken lightly.

Once an individual becomes addicted to an illicit substance (or even a prescribed medication from a doctor), they often lose complete control over their choices and habits.

This is why it can be so painful to witness drug addiction happen in your life, not just for the person struggling, but also for loved ones who helplessly watch on the sidelines wondering, “What did I do wrong?” or “What can I do differently to help this person I love?”

The simple truth is: Drug addiction is often no one’s fault. Those struggling with addiction can be victims of circumstances and unfortunate situations that lead them to turn to drugs to temporarily escape their problems.

A drug addict’s life can become a vicious cycle of never being satisfied and always searching to fulfill their next craving. That’s all they can focus on. This can make the road to recovery a very tricky and complex problem.

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The Biggest Piece of the Pie: Identifying Mental Health Issues and Seeking Success

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This is a guest article from Dan Lerner, co-teacher of NYU’s most popular class “The Science of Happiness” and author of the new book U Thrive: How to Succeed in College (and Life), a fun, comprehensive guide to surviving and thriving in college and beyond.

Knowing how to bounce back and then bounce higher—the ability to shrug off adversity and succeed in the face of tremendous challenge—these are the characteristics of resilience.

Resilience can come from within, but it can also come from the people around us. It can also come in the form of therapy from a mental health professional. Going through therapy is one of the most resilient acts we can engage in. While many believe that mental health issues are uncommon, 50 percent of people will experience challenges to their mental health in their lifetime. If it’s not you, it is certainly many of the people you know.

The peak age for mental illness? Eighteen to 25. That growth stretch from childhood to adulthood, freedom, pressure, adversity, change – it lends to mental health challenges. What is alarming is that we aren’t told how to cope with mental illness or provided the tools to overcome it, especially at those ages.

People are designed to bounce back from hard times. It is biological to survive, adapt and thrive, but emotional overload leaves you feeling like you are crazy sometimes. A therapist can help you find your way back again.

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