“Cognitive defusion” describes the process of accepting your thoughts while at the same time distancing yourself and not clinging to them. Here are 7 great metaphors that illustrate this concept perfectly. Which one resonates with you the most?
In this first episode of “Talking to Myself,” I share some big announcements about my new book deal, as well as some interesting studies on nature and body image, writing and sleeping, sauna bathing, mindfulness and kindness, and the relationship between volunteering and self-esteem. I also answer some of your guys questions on Twitter, including questions on social media and social skills, how to manage an anxiety episode, the effect of pornography on our minds, how to get “revenge” on people who hurt you, forgiving others, and the difference between psychology and neuroscience.
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Tara Cousineau is a clinical psychologist and author of the book The Kindness Cure. In this chat, we discuss the current state of kindness (and cruelty) in our world and practical ways we can make kindness cool again. One big factor is how the internet and social media shape what we see in the world (with an emphasis on negative news) – this can lead to a “cool to be cruel” mentality. We also talk about the importance of both mindfulness and forgiveness when overriding our old impulses and instincts, and how this relates to being a kinder and nicer person in the future.
Discover more about Tara Cousineau here:
TaraCousineau.com
@taracousphd
Book Recommendation:
The Kindness Cure: How the Science of Compassion Can Heal Your Heart and Your World
Self improvement is a puzzle – it requires we work on many different pieces in our lives and find a way to combine them harmoniously. In the long term, we need to remember this “complete picture” mindset.
Meditation is a type of technology – like a telescope or microscope – in the sense that it improves our scope of observation and extends our awareness toward experiences that we are otherwise unable to detect.
